I have moon in Capricorn, a Saturn-ruled moon, and rules (Saturn) make me comfortable (moon). Transiting Saturn in Libra brings a focus to rules in relationship, rules that balance, the importance of manners and etiquette in relating. Following social rules is a way of showing respect (Saturn) to the other (Libra); it’s making nice to get along. Ideally you give that respect and you get it back. That’s balance and balance is the core of Libra.
Saturn in the Venus-ruled sign of Libra hits the most sensitive parts of the synastry chart between my man and I. It hits both our moons, with his in Libra. We both have challenging Venus-Saturn energies in our charts as well. When Saturn went into Libra this set off both of our feelings about restriction in relationship, love blockage. It may seem like such a little thing but what got us feeling better and back on track was instituting rules, manners that show respect, old rules for relating.
One example that has been HUGE for us is opening doors. He walks around and opens my car door and shuts it after me. He opens whatever door we’re walking through. I’ve learned to wait at the door if I arrive first. I’m not being demanding, he’s not being controlling. We’re doing the dance of manners. He gets to be archetypically yang while I get to be archetypically yin. We’re both rather liberated, actually, but this old ritual used as an expression of love and respect helps both of us channel this Venus-Saturn energy into something supportive and loving, rather than restrictive and distressing. It gives positive structure to that energy.
I find it helps when encountering difficult energy to break it down into its key words and see if there isn’t a more positive channel, a more palatable way to express that energy.
What is your take on manners and etiquette? Has it changed since Saturn went into Libra?