Hi, Elsa.
What are the markers of attraction to older men in a chart of a woman? It’s a general question, so I’m not including any birth data.
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Hi, Studying.
There are people who fare well by partnering outside their age range. There are clear markers of such a tendency, shown in chart. It’s a Venus Saturn signature which can show itself in a number of ways.
These are the strongest markers…
- Cancer or Capricorn (Sun, Moon or rising)
- Saturn in the 7th house or Libra
- Venus conjunct, square or opposite Saturn
- Venus in Capricorn or the 10th house
- Stellium in Capricorn
- Saturn in the 1st house
- Major emphasis on 4th/10th axis
Certainly not every Cancer or Capricorn is going to find themselves in May/December love relationships. However, virtually all people in these types of relationships have one (or more) of these signatures.
It’s interesting to note that both parties, male or female, older or younger, will have these same signatures. I know many happy couples with a wide age gap. I covered this extensively in my workshop – Finding Your True Love & Soulmate. There is nothing like it anywhere. It’s highly recommended for anyone dealing with Venus Saturn issues.
Do you have experience with an age gap in a love relationship? Tell us!
Gosh.. I bought your report and am loving it (reading 1/3 so far). I’m a Capricorn rising male with Venus Square Saturn (in 1st) and my girl is 7 years younger, Sun Cancer and Venus square Saturn too!!
Your indicators are spot on which is what made me purchase.
I’m just wondering if 2 Venus square Saturns (which make Venus opposite Saturn in the composite) means that we are basically screwed? I really hope not… though I am fearful of the amount of effort it might require on both our parts..
Thank you! And no, you’re not screwed. I think I covered this in there. You have a joint deal going there. It’s a positive.
My husband is 8 years my senior and has Venus conjunct Saturn in the 4th house.
I used to date men who were around my age, and then in my late 20s I suddenly became attracted to and interested in younger men – and dated men 5 or 8 years my junior for some time.
I have venus inconjunct saturn, and venus/mercury are in the 4th house.
I am a Libra asc, Sun, Moon, Merc in Cancer. From my Cancer sun, Capricorn 7th house, Saturn in 5th. My husband was 25 years older.
I’m a Capricorn Sun with a Capricorn stellium. I also am attracted to older guys. However I think my Venus in Aquarius can contribute to that as Saturn is the traditional ruler of Aquarius. Also Venus in Aquarius does not seem to care about ages in love relationships from what I have read.
I have 5 of the 8 characteristics you listed there. And my dear husband is 10 years older than me. 🙂
Very cool post. My SO is 4 years younger than I am and has 4 of those aspects.
These markers are great. I have 3 of them, and my significant friendships and relationships have been with people older than me.
I have cancer rising conjunct moon and saturn, and saturn square sun and mars conjunction, and a stellium in 4th house ( venus, pluto,sun,mars, uranus all in libra) and my 1st relation was with a guy 10 years older, many virgo guys were attracted to me and I married one….but I am attracted to younger men and I had relation with a guy 20 years younger then me with capricorn moon in 4th house.
I have Venus trine Saturn and Spouse is 12 yrs older.
The only signature is my Aquarian Saturn is in my 5th house and squares my 2nd house Scorpio Venus.
Fun loving(my Juno in Leo) older guy who’s emotionally and financially stable perhaps?
I tend to attract younger sweet guys tho….which is OK
But Personally I think the above described men in their upper 50s and 60s are HOT!! And there are alot around 😀
I do have Cap Saturn in the 12th square Aries Venus in the 2nd. I’m more of an older woman/younger man kind of gal. Of course, now that I’m older, younger men tend not to be interested in me at all.
I have a cap moon in 4th at 29 degrees square Venus in 12th, my moon opposing Saturn in the 10th house also. My current lover is 25yrs younger than me. Suffice to say…I look and act much younger than my age…and all of a sudden in my so-called midlife crises I’m attracting younger men. In my twenties I was with men alot older than me. I also have Venus conjunct Uranus…?
I am 56, my fiancé is 24 years old. I have up to 5 of these signatures. My fiancé has 4 signatures. I am a Cancer Ascendant. Aquarius Saturn 7th, Capricorn Descendant. Saturn also conjunct Aquarius Venus in 8th, both square my Moon. Venus, Mars, Uranus and Pluto aspect my Midheaven. My fiancé has 5 planets in aspect to 10th axis, Sun, Mars, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. She also has Saturn, Moon conjunct in the 10th. I am a young at heart Aries who likes partners with Saturn maturity who I can be teacher for. Gemini her likes me for my youthful looks and maturity.
Thanks for the forum Elsa. As for asteroids I have Hebe (attraction to youthfulness) conjunct Pluto in 2nd, opposite Eos (all things young) in 8th, trine Chione (under age Lolita) in Scorpio sextile to Pluto. All part of my Chiron apex, Neptune, Pluto base, Ascendant Kite.
Saturn conjunct Venus: When I was young I related more to older women I felt more at ease with them than I did my peers. I still have a natural rapport with older women, I know how to flatter them ha ha; but now I am older I am drawn to younger women to mother them instead of being mothered, I am now the nurturer teacher.
It sounds like my Cancer Ascendant at work in cahoots with my Venus / Saturn conjunction … just thinking …
I have some of these signs but actually I never liked older men ?♀️
I tend to attract younger men because I have this younger girlish vibe around me (maybe it’s Venus in 4th house?) but basically I feel comfortable with people of my same age..
Welcome, Mila. I have the signature too but I’m like you. This is not the only way for this to play, but if you check the charts of people in relationships with a large age discrepancy, it’s almost always there.
What about the attraction for older women?
Same markers.
I have Venus-Saturn conjunction in Sagittarius in 2nd house, and I have partner, who is 36 years older than me (I’m 34). Our relationship is rather stable and serious. But I must say that the age gap is devastating sometimes and causes problems.
I am a 50 year old woman dating a 20 year old man. He was an old soul from the very beginning! Sun, Moon and mercury in Capricorn. Venus in Sag, Pisces mars and ascendant.
We’ve been together for almost a year now. It works and I’m happy. Need I say more? 😉
Hi Elsa,
How about constantly attracting men much younger than one self? Are there any markers? Thanks
Same markers. But also, people with Leo in their chart also tend to date people who are younger / youthful.
Hi Elsa, what if a chart has these markers:
Capricorn Rising
Leo Sun 8th house
Cancer mercury 7th house
but
Venus in Gemini
Libra Jupiter 10th house
Saturn trine Moon
Moon conjunct Pluto
Venus and mercury appears to be contradicting
Oops, I have seven markers. I dated one year older and four years older. 7 years older was the most I was attracted to a guy, also 5 years younger, these used to be crushes and not dates though. I think I am fit to date a younger guy. On top of it all I also have juno in 3rd house. Also the crush 5 years younger IS into older girls and he has venus opposite saturn. So that’s cute. 🙂
Got outside confirmation that I don’t look my age. Someone guessed my age as 10 years younger today and was so surprise to hear my real age and then right afterwards another person asked about my age because I looked very young to them. Cap rising and 1st house saturn getting that reverse uno age card. ?
Still it’s more about placements. 1st person had saturn conjunct desc/opp asc and the other had a capricorn desc. And they were around my age. As long as you’re compatible, the age range might vary a bit or none at all.
Can’t relate to this article at all.
When i was younger, i used to date and find myself attracted to older people and vice-versa, but for the last four years or so i only attract younger people. And i am not talking only about romantic partners, people in general (friends, partners, etc). My current female friends are about 10 years younger than me and men that i attract are around 4 to 8 years younger than me. I don’t know why. Must be my energy, cause children were always attracted to me and i’ve always liked them.
I have virgo asc, saturn in the 5th/capricorn, jupiter in cancer (maybe that’s why ? Jupiter rules dc) disposited by leo moon, venus in the 3rd and a stellium in libra.
Like my self and others and you Carla relating to kids and being young at heart is at the heart of connecting to those younger than us, or us being the younger and being that younger person to others, and not relating to our own peers.
Yep this is true for me. My husband is 9 years younger than me. He has cancer sun, with Venus opposite Saturn. I have cancer rising, Venus in Capricorn trine Saturn. In the past I’ve dated men 10 years older then me. Interesting!
Hi Rachel, Is true of you that when you dated older partners you sought nurturing, and now with a younger partner you like to nurture? For me also partnering with more mature partners then partnering with less mature partners, I think stems from an immaturity is this also true for you? Granted though we take relationships seriously and make dutiful partners.
I have so many of these but I’m married to someone my age but…he’s a Capricorn 😉
I’m a Capricorn rising, Cancer moon, and a 1st house Saturn and I’ve been married almost 30 years to a man 13 years older than me. He has a Cancer moon as well but no Capricorn planets. And I have been the stabilizing influence on him even though I’m a lot younger. God he was a wild thing! You’ve gotta love astrology.
The last guy i was dating was an older man, 18 years my senior. I’ve got 4 of the 8 indicators mentioned above. I’m very Venus-Saturn. This is not something i’m after, dating older men, usually i date people my own age, but i did like it this time, sort of. It didn’t work out, but that had nothing to do with the age gap and everything with personality!
I’ve also attracted some guys that were much younger than i am, but i’ve never dated them….
Great article! Lots to think about.
I was never interested in this topic until a few months ago when I developed feelings for a much younger guy. This was a shock to me. I strongly feel that he feels a connection toward me too. I work in higher ed, so we are surrounded by youthful energy. The strange thing is that I did not fall for him because of his young age – it was quite the opposite. When we first talked, I actually mistook him for an older returning student, and I was shocked that he was not. His maturity and the emotional sensitivity attracted me instantly to him! The bond that I felt with him was too too strong.
Fwiw, I have a Cap stellium (Sun, Venus, Mer) trine Saturn+Mars in Virgo. I am prone to unrequited love.
I don’t know his birth time but I managed to get his birthdate and he has- Ju+Sa in Aries opposite Moon in Libra. Ju+Sa in Aries trine Venus in Sag. He has a strong Cap stelilum – Sun, Mer, Uranus, Neptune. Ma in Aqu.