I've not fully figured out BML. Course, she is in an out of sign conjunction with my Neptune..so that makes sense. She's in Scorpio for me. 10th house. She doesn't aspect much. Semisextile to sun, some minor aspect to Mars and a tight square with my AC. Hmm..just saw the aspect to the AC. Maybe it's her fault that I put most women off when we first meet. Interesting.
@Josi... that makes sense, when much of what I hear of Her makes me think "Pluto". I can see why some women might be wary at first, if this were so!!
She is in my empty, Aqua ruled second, unaspected.
Having her in the 10th should speak of career/ standing? Or in the second of possessions or whatever? But she has little to do with these things, so... *sigh* I await that "A-Ha!" moment with Her one day 
@MorningMist... I think you are free to feel a little relieved by now! Lol.
Mine is in House 3 Scorpio, and opposes my Taurus Moon just about exactly
She is very powerful indeed in my life and in my chart. I communicate best via sex, for all my Merc as chart ruler. And with a Scorp BML my sexuality was always both evident and powerful even when I was in my teens, to those who could parse such things.
I interpret the opp to my Moon to signify the endless push/pull I've always endured between my sexual and my emotional and other needs. The two are rarely compatible - and Lilith almost always wins the battle
Mandy the cool pro, who found longterm material security from the scandal, and warm-hearted good-time-girl Christine, who never did...
I know next to nothing about Lilith - am I right in thinking BML is the same as Lilith in the chart? I once heard that these were two totally different elements.
Anyway, if BML is lilith, then I have it in the 8th. According to this site: http://www.tdjacobs.com/lilith1.html
This means there's emphasis on intimacy and sexual relationships. That rings true for me, I have to be able to totally trust someone before I allow them properly 'into' me, without making that horrendously double entendre!
Also, if I'm not getting enough intimate action (as it were), I do feel vulnerable through a lack of shared intimacy. I see this as more than a self-esteem issue - I just really need physical intimacy in tandem with emotional intimacy. It's much easier for me to spill secrets and hidden thoughts when I am in a spell of being fully intimate, for example.
A cold spell is always a very hard hit for me on that basis...
There are loads of BML threads on the boards btw, some of them linked below this thread