egiyablu,

Please don't mistake what I say in that if someone is drinking, they can never be raped. That can certainly happen. I just know of a case, where the female, who i believe had an alcohol abuse issue, claimed rape. The details are long, and not approprate to go into here, and her friends did try to keep asking her "are you hooking up with this guy". I think she just did not like the situation she awoke to, couldn't remember what had occurred for a fair amount of the prior evening ( her friends could , though, and this is why i do not believe there was a rape) and decided this would be the "coverup" for her behavior. I know of another similar case were the woman claimed rape to cover up her theft of a rock from a drug dealer.

Conversely, I know other cases where i certainly believed the woman was raped, but due to circumstances, such as the alleged abuser being a long term boyfriend/husband, trying to convince a jury would be a monumental task and put the victim through HELL, so charges were not pursued.

Very complex subject----

@Hadesmoon Screwing someone who is asleep because they are asleep, blackout drunk or otherwise incapacitated is rape because they are unable to consent.

Honestly, I think there's far more stigma to being a rape victim, true or false, than to being a rapist or an accused rapist, if you're talking about an adult raping an adult, especially a man raping a woman.

I don't think rape accusations are more likely to be false than any other criminal accusation.

I guess few talk about it because it's so upsetting and due to those gray area cases.

I've never known anyone falsely accused. I have known men who went to University to be teachers in public school (grades kindergarten to 8) and then left their jobs because of false accusations or fears of false accusations of inappropriate speech, touch, etc.

False accusations....definitely can destroy a life. It's tragic.

Got a lot of mixed emotions on this because on the one hand, women can safely speak out about it now when it happens, which is so important. But on the other, a few disturbed women have learned to make up rape stories for sympathy or whatever. Even not charging someone, just insinuating a guy raped them can damage a male permanently. It gives all of us women a bad reputation when that happens.

@Shakti,

Yes I am aware of this, and the cases i am thinking about this was not the case.

People seriously have to drop all assumptiousness when it comes to such serious accusations!

Keep the accuser seperate from the accused!

And take forever if that's how long it takes, to work out what happened...

before any action is taken!

That's the way the world should work!

It's not perfect, but it's better than any other way!

My dad was accused of sexual harassment by his mistress. From what I remember (and no one talked of my dad rosily so I think what I heard was legit) she was his mistress and employee and wanted more so she took him to court and he settled. It wasn't the first, just the first one I remember (I was 12).

Obviously I don't have much of an objective view but I do know the relationship was consentual.

ETA: I don't know anyone falsely accused of rape. I think it's very rare.