Also have BML in Cancer. Conjunct Asc. in 12th house. Square Jupiter in Aries, minor aspects to Chiron & Saturn.
I have no idea how much sex I exude, I don't think very much, but I think the energy has a very unfortunate effect in the beginning stages of my relationships. I can never be on the bottom and just relax, yet I'm only attracted to men who want to be on top! Not just in sex, but metaphorically! I also have Venus in Aries. I chase and I control and it doesn't work with the type of men I want. Supposedly my wants and needs are in harmony (moon in Sadge), but I'm always sacrificing my emotional comfort for some kind of thrill. I always get off to this bad start and I know it, yet I don't know how to act differently. It really hurts every time I am rejected after giving my best shot.
I suppose it doesn't help that my Mars is also in my 12th, in Gemini. Maybe I should try to quit text messaging. Doh!
kab said
Libra Noir said
I feel rejected by men as a whole.(((HUGS))) me too
Thanks kab:) I think I feel better about this since I first posted that. I realize that I reject them too in a way. I fear them. And rightly so. I'm very vulnerable to them. But I'm tamer now. More mellow. I understand now that men aren't always the enemy. They're a different species but there's some good ones out there.
Lol, just thinking of posting on this topic has orbs dancing around like crazy, but oh well, the root of this theme has been pounding through my mind for almost three days and I've no idea why...
10th house 8 deg. Virgo Lilith conjunct NN, sextile Cancer Juno, and trine Capricorn Selena. Sabian symbols for those three are Lilith: a girl takes her first dancing instruction, Juno: a large diamond in the first stages of the cutting process, and Selena: an angel comes carrying a harp.
In terms of sexuality, we could of course construe Virgo Lilith providing service towards others as insinuating servicing them, but oh to woe how it is that innuendos seldom flow...
My Lilith finally started making sense along with how the aspects tie in once I came across a delineation stating that a prominent Lilith will predispose one toward happily being outcast by society and treading one's own path despite all advice and prompts to do otherwise.
Most people would think in terms of socially acceptable sexual behavior... hmm, how can I get more freaky than that? Doh, I'm 34 years old and have slept with a grand total of two women in my life. Basically, I'm very much content to be an outcast among a society of sluts and will never entertain a one-night stand let alone sex with someone I don't feel an emotional attachment to.
And no, I'm not a unicorn...
Good post. @Matthew, what makes a prominent Lilith? Still confused on it all. 
I devoted some of my astrology study to learn about Lilith a while ago. She's the female taboo, the mother who competes with or doesn't love her children, or the proud, triumphant prostitute, as examples. I'm not sure she's truly an archetype; but if she is, she represents that archetype we can scarcely imagine exists. While it's important to get in touch with Lilith, I think she can harm us if we identify too strongly with her.
I thought the archetype was Adam's first wife before Eve. Lilith wouldn't submit, so he went and found Eve who was truly feminine.