Scorpio Sun and Venus here (Mars in Libra too), I'm guilty for having done that myself 🙁 and all the times I did it to get attention from my partner, because I was insecure. It's not that I wanted them to "look at me" but I wanted to be in their minds, like they were working and thinking about me.
I've changed, I hope.
(hug)

thanks josefina. he is on my mind. i am just a cancer...so obviously i don't do things directly. and frankly i don't know if i'm on his mind either. i am glad you have changed. its so passive-aggressive and only causes pain.

@sunshinedayz, it is actually passive-agressive, but until I messed badly someone I loved and cared about, I never realized people wouldn't cope with that emotional intensity dynamic in the relationship.

thanks nutsy...you're right.

i second and third (4th?) the dumping..

but not before you tell him why you think he's being an ass. some scorpios need that in your face attention. i know, when i'm being a manipulative and obnoxious dick, it's because there's something i need to get out.. but it won't happen on it's own. call him on his actions, and offer your perspective as to what the reasoning may be.

if you're right, he will probably be shocked that you know him so well and be thrilled that you're paying attention.

if you're wrong.. then... he probably has deeper issues that he's even ready to acknowledge, and you need to make it known that unless he is willing and capable of divulging the roots of his actions, you are NOT allowed to be the beacon for his projections.

....wow.. and i totally just smacked myself in the face with my own words..... i think i've been projecting. a lot. fuck me. 2 steps back and slightly removed shows me in a whole new light.......... i may need to appologize