It is horrible. The intensity, the obsessiveness, being totally consumed by the thoughts about him, intense suffering when rejected, the highs when he appears interested, the lows when its clear he doesn't care. Hard to properly describe how horrible it is.

it is!! i used to pine and pine for that kind too, for my ex husband and also my ex who turned out ...well not so good. but i'm stubborn and i want to experience the love/hardship even if maybe subconsciously it's not good for me. I want to live the edge of darkness because living in neutral can get boring. Now if only detachment helped in these matters. I remember when i tried to just not give a damn and then it's as if the universe is playing tricks and then they run back to you. It's some kind of psychological torture. 

Oh! Sorry la_sirena, I wasn't at all thnking of minimizing the pain of this condition, nor considering the people who suffer from this as immature.

My first reaction was "teenage crush on steroids", to express intensity! But I left out steroids because I thought this might sound aggressive. Teenage crush to me means a state with intense, passionate, obsessive thoughts and feelings towards someone, often in a romatic and somewhat unreal way. Well, I could've left out "teenage" too, because adults can have crushes and not be immature. But I wasn't thinking of someone taking this personally, so I present my excuses to those I have offended. This was not at all my intention.

I did (and still do) understand that it is a very painful condition, that is quite exalting in the highs, but despairing in the lows. That is why I said that I think it must be horrible to experience.

My Venus has only one aspect : square Neptune. In younger days I've had a few episodes of obsession, illusion & disillusion, luckily not of limerent variety. That was more than enough for me.

i was talkin to a virgo man (who is very secretive) lol  about this kind of psychology, and he told me that that is just a way to "web" you in. To lure you, and seduce you. If this is the Scorpio/Pluto man from years ago, it's a spider dance. i think it's very 2nd nature for them, and perhaps many don't realize they do this to women. It's as subconscioius for even spiders in nature to lure their prey, because of the feeding. Perhaps this is a very kind of limerance that is what is like, and the prey is stunned and wishes to be wounded up in a webbed cocoon and become a butterfly! Transformation!

Thank you so much for you apology, I didnt think you meant it to be offensive. I'm sorry, I am just sensitive about it, I dont talk about this often because most people dont seem to understand. Your Venus is square Neptune? You must get it to a degree.  I am thinking Pluto must have a lot to do with it as well, hense the intense obsessiveness that goes with it.

You have a really good point.  I've wondered that myself. 

I want to talk about this in depth but i cant because its a public forum.  Too bad there isnt a private way to talk or at least a way to delete our own posts.