I have a really hard time with this in regards to romantic partners. I get obsessed with everything I do, but getting obsessed with people is an especially horrible thing to experience. I realized today that thats probably why many of my relationships are shortlived. Because I get obsessed, uncomfortable with the obsession so I eradicate the object of my obsession, then I feel free. 

The astrology is Sun conjunct Pluto. Moon, Mercury, Mars and Uranus in Scorpio. P.Sun in Scorpio. p.Pluto conj. p. Venus. 

As of right now, I am obsessed with the man from my thread “sharing some synastry”. The thing is I DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH THIS PERSON. Im not obsessed with being with them, in fact I want them gone! But thoughts and emotions about them are haunting me. I feel like they’ve invaded my psyche. Its all over our synastry too. My mind has been looking for an excuse to banish this person, which really isn’t fair to him. Should’ve listened to my gut about the whole thing. 

Then I think about my one long term relationship. He was obsessed with me, and I think that really took a lot of pressure off me in a way. I guess I projected my intensity on to him, but it was a relief for a while. I hate to say it, but Id rather be the object of obsession than the one obsessed. 

I don’t really understand what obsession is, but I feel like it might be about need to control. 

A hard time?

Really??

Just do what you did with me.

Simply.

Just ghost...

Uh exqueeze me? It was the other way around Chad. Obviously severe miscommunication. I dont know what to say about the public display here. 

Perhaps one can take the Tantric approach: instead of looking or moving away from it, further observe it, questions your observations, ask yourself why is certain characteristic of said A or said B of great interest to me? Follow it through, back through your own personal history.

You have to be completely honest about it all.

Overall, I find that moving away from questioning your obsession not helpful.

I could be VERY wrong.

I don't get obsessed a lot. It's out of character for me. If I do get obsessed, it's usually because I'm at a low/dark point in my life, or I am hangry, or something. It's an unconscious coping thingy for me. Or, it's temporary insanity.....for me!

I indulge my obsessions, otherwise I would feel deprived and want them more.  I just control them.  Life without deep emotions would feel empty to me.

I have Pluto in Leo square my Venus/Mercury conjunction in Scorpio.  I was obsessed with my now husband.  He has Pluto in Leo square Venus in Scorpio too, so the feeling was mutual and it worked out.  Other relationships I had where I was obsessed were just no good for me and eventually they just became too much and I backed away after a whole lot of suffering on my part.

If I have a problem to solve, I never give up.  I'll work on it until I find the answer and leave no stone unturned.  This was really useful to me when I ran computer networks because sometimes the answer to network problems was very difficult to identify.  I guess this is a positive obsession in one way, but it was mentally draining many times.  Still, I love taking a deep dive down a rabbit hole.