I'm sorry you are suffering. I was in a similar situation long ago with a Scorpio guy, but it lasted too little for me to fall in love with him. I liked him a lot though, but he dumped me after behaving & showing he liked me a lot & wanted me. I dated him only a few weeks. He was very controlling and definitely manipulative. I was very upset and also wanted revenge... But after a while, I began to feel at ease he lost interest in me... and lost my appetite for revenge. I took a bit of distance and realized his character didn't match my soul sensitivity and that in the long run, I didn't like many aspects of what I could get a glimpse of while being with him.

Looking back now after all these years (I still meet him occasionally, we live quite close) I think a longer relationship with him would have been devastating for me. I was so young and he was definitely very good at the game with much dating experience.

After my wish for revenge disappeared.. guess what? Almost one year after he dumped me, he wanted to date me again... I just couldn't believe it... I told him I'm not going back to that. The story ended there. But I felt good he wanted me back and I said no. Funny this happened after I gave up on my revenge... The universe has its strange ways sometimes...

I know it is very difficult, but think about a long relationship with this guy, how would have that been for you? All those cold and hot games... 

In my opinion, if you can use the experience ie “his power over you” to bolster your own self then all the more power to you. As long as you have boundaries and are responsible for your own emotions and actions, you have the power, whether it’s because of him or not. 

Posted by: @libra-noir

Revenge will only feed his power- not yours because it’s still his energy you are working off of. 

exactly.

The game you describe - crazy for you, then cold, then crazy again, then cold, suggests to me that the person is emotionally volatile.  One thing to bear in mind is that there is a strong possibility that many of the feelings you are now experiencing belong to the other person. I would observe the feelings (wanting revenge, etc), but try not to enact them, no matter how powerful they are. Consider that at the heart of this other person there is potentially some really murky and disturbing feelings going on, which you've now been handed. In experiencing them, no matter how unpleasant, it may help you see the person more clearly and come to understand that you are better off without that kind of energy in your life. 

5 planet Scorpio Stellium checking in for roll call. 😳 Of course I am going to show up! 🙃 

Went to the blog first. Looks like it was started in 09! My lord the broken hearts. Hurts to read it. Makes me wonder what kind of scorched earth I have left behind. 

When I think of how deeply and true I love, when I love, it's hard to imagine I left any hurt behind. 

A woman came to my business one day. She said she was married to my ex. She said that he had a picture of me on his dresser in his master bedroom. She said that he kept it there after they were married 😳 (weirdo) She said she finally asked him to put it away (the day I would marry some dude with a woman shrine on his dresser would be NEVER) She said the picture didn't get put away easily. He was a Capricorn. Wasn't with him for long. She was married to him for 9 years. She said that I was in the middle of that marriage all 9 years. I did amputate the guy. He was effing MEAN. I had no idea of any of this. I walked away and amputated the contact. (In my defense the SOB hit me, so he was dead to me) 

If you act crazy with a Scorpio they will plot and plan and never say a word and just disappear. You come home from work and they are gone. You just had a good day yesterday. How did they disappear like that? You can try to exact revenge but that is probably not a good idea because if it takes them 40 years they will come back when you least expect it and bury the hammer. They never forget a kindness or a slight. EVER. 

I am not saying this is right. I just know the energy as I live in it and have done this. Why? Well it took a long time for me to disappear. He thought he was kind and caring too. But he was not. He thought it was okay to flirt, ignore me, let me sit feeling unloved, he was selfish, very rarely showed the love he was given and certainly not in the same way. He embarrassed me, ridiculed me, belittled me in front of people. He was cold. Love making was mechanical for the last 4-5 years. He was distracted and paid more attention to his friends than our home. He was Sagittarius (married two of them) both jealous and big mouth blurting bullies. Found out BOTH cheated. 

There is no Scorpio on planet earth that is going to tolerate this behavior for long. Certainly not forever. They are planning an exit route the minute the partner turns stupid on them

(I am NOT saying that anyone here has turned stupid on a Scorpio so do not take it this way, I am telling you why I left, amputated, disappeared!)

Scorpio is known for revenge. Let me tell you what I know about this. I have a Master's degree in revenge. Don't do it. When you do you are just doing it to yourself. The energy you put out is the energy you'll receive back X10! 

Also, Saturn is RX right now in Aqua. I wouldn't revenge someone for a million dollars with Saturn in Aqua and the nodes in Taurus/Scorpio. Good luck if you do. That boomerang will level you. Old man Saturn is just looking to put his boot in some asses. DON'T DO IT. 

We have all been there. I have loved and lost. It hurt so bad one time my flipping hair fell out. I got alopecia from heartbreak. That is how deep it hurt me internally. (I loved those Saggies hard!) 

We have all been hurt. I was reading the blog and how hurt people have been from Scorpio. If I could describe how heartbroken I have been it would make you sick. I took it so hard and so deep that I became physically ill. Mourned that shit. Like a death. I was covered in shingles. I was in the fetal position crying for a very long time. Lost weight, felt like dead man walking. To the ones I actually thought I loved, I took the loss hard. 

Then as a Scorpio I decided that to be okay in a relationship I would always make sure I was with someone who loved me more. I would love them, but not as deeply as they loved me. This didn't work either. Because here comes the Pisces. I adore Pisces. He just kept loving me anyway and today if something happened to this man, I would probably die with him. I love him deeply. I cannot imagine a life without him. He gets on my nerves and his head is up his Neptune ass sometimes, but no one has ever loyally loved me like the Pisces. 

I think you really have to look at Venus. Never discount Venus. Make sure if you are water you look to water and earth. Make sure you have strong Saturn contacts. How on earth is a Gemini going to understand a Scorpio? How did I expect a freewheeling Sag to stick to a commitment for the long haul? I raised a Gemini stellium w/an Aqua moon and I would die for him. But when I get deep, he goes rogue! 

Imagine me trying to get love with a Scorpio Venus from an Aquarius Venus. This is not going to happen in the way I want and need love. I live with a Pisces Venus and get the love I need. And so does he. He doesn't mind being possessed mind body and soul 🤣 ... we are sickening together. My grands were here for two weeks and were gagging. Oldest said OMG you two are love birds... its gross. 🤣 I laughed and said if you don't hush we are going to start making out LOL and they were just dying laughing.... 

These are things I know about a Scorpio Stellium. I love deep. To the bone. I protect the few people I love with my life. I am loyal and true. BUT... when I was young and out there dating and messing like young people do... if I was not that into the person I would disappear. Hard to hear right? Well, I think the same thing happens to people who are dating any sign. The fire signs will shock you and the air signs don't give a rats ass... they DGAF haha 

A Scorpio shows up in your life when you need a total transformation. They are called Karma. They are called a lot of names. But there is usually a lesson learned if you've been with one. I understand the men are a little harder to deal with than the women. (And to be fair I do have a Cancer rising and a Taurus moon so I am not that scary... also my stellium is in the 4th so I am a moon child) Still, I have all this plutonic energy bunched up together and it can pack a wallop! 

Find a sign that goes with your birth chart. Do some synastry work before you dive in. Slowly get to know the person and don't sleep with them right away. Women's emotions get tied up in that energy easier than a man's and women are broken after they give themselves sexually and the dude takes off... they usually are just looking to bang in the beginning. Conquer. They are full of testosterone and want to F! We are full of estrogen and want to nest. 

 This doesn't sound hip or cool. Everyone is effing right out of the gate these days. But if you are looking to spare your heart and not feel broken when a Scorpio man or any man walks away, guard your P with your life. I have literally become celibate many times in my life and glad for it. I would rather be alone that be left feeling like shit and wanting to revenge someone. 

Like Libra Noir said... the dude still has your energy and is still in control if you do anything other than walk away and never look back. Do whatever you can to be in complete control of yourself. Do things to take your mind off that situation and heal yourself before you get entangled with anyone else and learn from what he has done so it never happens to you again. I can only tell you how I have gotten over such things and yes... it has happened to me to. Bad. Horrible. Worst pain of my life. Time will mend it. Concentrate on YOU and do everything you can to forget about him. To do that you have to make yourself the star. The most important relationship we ever have..... is with ourselves!!! 

Sorry the Scorpio was an asshole. We are assholes. But so is everyone at one time or another. 

I would admit defeat and move on personally. I love Scorpios but I'm not messing around with them since revenge can often be their wheelhouse. Plus it makes it take longer to get over it. It becomes the new obsession and keeps you there day after day, hoping to hurt the person. But once you do, then what? Nothing. Or he does something back, or if you think you're going to get really good revenge, it turns out he isn't even bothered and mocks you for it. Then you feel worse.

Walk away with your integrity and don't give him another minute of your time, EVER, even if he shows back up (and if he does come back, ignoring him is your revenge, hooray). That's what I would do anyway. Time will take care of him. Wait it out and you'll see.