What REALLY happens here exactly? Because on other sites I've come across,it's been stated that the Sun is the dominant one in the relationship and gets a huge ego boost from Pluto's adulation for it. It's also said that Pluto is the obsessive one here and the Sun gets scared off by Pluto's intensity of feelings for it after awhile and tries to detach itself away from Pluto. Also,Pluto is said to be manipulative,be it consciously or subconsciously,and tries to influence the Sun to do things their way sometimes. 

However,in my case with my love interest (He is the Sun here. I am Pluto),it puzzles me that while we both love each other dearly, and while it is true that I think about him 24-7,his feelings for me seem to multiply mine even. You see, he has loved me for the past 2 years and for the last year or so,his emotions have become stronger and much deeper than ever. I never used to feel the same way prior to this but after getting to know him better, I myself have developed feelings for him since October 2014. At the same time, I am kinda practical in my approach to romance nowadays. While still a romantic at heart,I cannot throw myself into the tides of love fully anymore and want to give up everything in life for a guy. I have other priorities over love nowadays. So while I love him, I am ready to detach and move on if I am really sure things will never work out between us.

But with this guy though,it seems that he is obsessed about me. From what I have found out, he does try and dig up even minute details about me and my life from others, uses his friends Instagram accounts to check mine daily since he doesn't have one while I am active on it, talks about me all the time etc. Apparently,he gets very very influenced by the things that I say, think about,do that he ends up (not sure whether deliberately or by pure instinct) adopting these into his way of life. And by knowing that, I am the one who seems to be getting the ego boost. It's like I am so,so touched and super proud that a guy as amazing as that finds me fascinating and worthy of such admiration. Yet at the same time, a part of my psyche feels a sense of power. Like if we end up in a relationship, I would be the one in control ; that I am the one who can dictate where we should be heading, that I can influence his perception and views on things. And that somehow, he would get my point of view and follow along. At the same time, I feel like a b***h for having this thought even cross my mind. Yet,I am not the type of woman who wants to be controlled by a guy. I want to have my say in things as well. So in that way, sometimes I feel that it is nice that this guy thinks that my principles in life are respectable and he feels like he can change for the better because of that. 

I know he has been going through a lot of personal issues lately and just last night I cried myself to sleep just hoping that he will be able to fix them and be the best version of himself that he could be. I don't want him to be hindered by anything, not even by me. And if I get in the way of that, I would rather walk out of this relationship than stop him from shining in life. What are our chances really? Should I think of not getting into a relationship with this guy? We can be the best of friends if we get closer;we have sparks between each other in the rare times we are together and conversations just flow perfectly between us. But as for being a couple, I am not sure. I somehow feel I have good intuition about what he thinks and feels about me. Is that a Plutonian trait? Don't wanna get ahead of myself here though. And I heard if we break up,it will be disastrous for us both. I don't want to destroy us both so should I avoid pursuing a relationship with him? I know that he loves me. Though he is actually clueless that I reciprocate his feelings now. Please do advise. Thank you.