Venus Conjunct Saturn in synastry:
This is a deep and serious relationship. You feel very secure with each other and you both feel comfortable making a lasting commitment to each other. However, the relationship tends to highlight the importance of responsibility and loyalty to one another, and you may cut yourselves off from other people or from activities you enjoyed before you came together, and this is likely to eventually lead to feelings of boredom, constraint, and being restricted. The commitment to the relationship may eventually become burdensome, especially to Venus, who is likely to feel unappreciated and emotionally inhibited by Saturn, while Saturn may feel that there is a lack of acknowledgment for the efforts and sacrifices made for Venus. This can become a rather joyless union unless you can build enough time for fun and play into your lives and thereby not become burdened by the demands of the relationship.
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Is your Venus conjunct your partner's Saturn or vice versa? What's it like?
Mr. Leo's Saturn is on my Venus (along with my own Saturn) and these two parts say it all for us: "However, the relationship tends to highlight the importance of responsibility and loyalty to one another..." & " This can become a rather joyless union unless you can build enough time for fun and play into your lives and thereby not become burdened by the demands of the relationship."
I feel it's too bad that I'm not important enough to garner his time or energy. I have set the burden down, now it remains to be seen if the burden can grow legs and walk with me or if I leave it behind. Time will tell,
Angie
I only know of one person who has Venus conjunct my Saturn in Sadge. He asked me out when I was a freshman in high school (2001-2002), and my brother basically forbid me from going out with him (in retrospect I see the good reason - he was a pot smoker back then, and he's a cocaine user today). Ah, I fell hard for him a few years later, and we ended up hooking up a few times once I was in my 20s. He also had that Cap mars conjunct my Dsc (which I've seen a few times.) There was no one else in my mind, and I continued to obsess over him for a long, long time. It went on and on, I pulled some weird shit, he was a pretty good sport through it all, and eventually it really went south and became somewhat dramatic. I finally found it in me to quit trying, in 2011... thanks to finding this blog and seeking guidance from Elsa. I remember how it ended. I was like, "but I worry about you," and he said "Don't. You're too beneficial." Man, that made it a whole lot easier. Him telling me to stop was all I needed to hear. But it still amazes me that I spent 10 years being interested in him.
I have natal Venus conjunct Saturn, so people right around my age tend to have their Saturn on my Venus as well. My earlier relationships, especially when still in school and dating someone 5 years older/younger is generally not an option, all had this aspect in pretty tight orb.
And I gotta say, even if you think that as a natal Venus-Saturn "I should be used to it," I immediately had better relationships once I started dating people whose Saturn was the hell out of my Venus sign.
What if it's a wide 11 degree conjunction? His 1 degree (retro) Saturn vs my Venus 12 degrees? Do all those things apply but not as intensely? Also, my natal Venus is opp my Saturn.
AriesChick said
What if it's a wide 11 degree conjunction? His 1 degree (retro) Saturn vs my Venus 12 degrees? Do all those things apply but not as intensely? Also, my natal Venus is opp my Saturn.
Personally speaking 11 degrees is too wide to be a conjunction. This is one quasi-exception. I've tended to think having Saturn anywhere in the same sign as someone's personal planet will be felt, just more intensely as you get closer to an exact conjunction. Just my take based on observation.