My brother has this. soup brought up cooking in her post. I had forgotten that in my previous pooped away post. My brother loves to cook and bake. He loves to cook with his girlfriend. He loves being partnered but then again, his chart screams this (sun in 7H, Mars conjunct Venus).

He works a lot with a primary job and his own side business. He has unraveled my mother’s finances and now handles it all successfully. He brings her groceries each week.

He’s always late. My mother always said he’ll be late for his own funeral. 

allie120 said

He’s always late. My mother always said he’ll be late for his own funeral.   

?   That’s what my birth father’s sister said to him! Like me, he had Mars in Cancer. Like me, a SLOWPOKE. Lol.   And yes, he was late for his own funeral. We drove around forever with his ashes in a box looking for his church in Podunk, Alabama. 

(Mercury was retro. Good thing, too. If all his cousins had found the church that day, there wouldn’t be enough room for all of them!)

By the way, is tardiness a Mars in Cancer trait? 

I recently read a piece of advice: Instead of apologising for tardiness, better to say, "Thank you, so much, for waiting."

I have Mars in Cancer.  Most often, now (in later years) I arrive at the agreed upon time.  ( benefit).  But for a long period, it was very often difficult for me.  Whether that's due to Mars, or to ADHD, I can't know.

Since I'm posting...  I'm motivated to act when someone close to me () is threatened.  As if a swich turned on.  Likewise, if a vulnerable person is attacked.

I've been thinking lately (introspection is a normal practice for me: also Mars in Cancer, I suspect) that my current pulling back, to focus mostly on those closest to me, is maybe a facet of Mars in Cancer.  Or, North Node in 12th house!!!  Or both!  Or a transit, who knows?

Checking back to the questions in the original post:  I want happiness - contentment, peace, and joy... real enjoyment - at home.  I make sense of the world/life by reflecting on past experiences.  Mine, and others'  experiences ( 9th house).

When I fight, my compassion is active.  I use my feelings.  And because I don't enjoy conflict, I do what I can to be effective, succinctly, as often as possible.

Sideways (Cancer approach) is very often more effective than, say Sagittarius', or Aries', All Guns Ahead.  I prefer a peaceful solution, win-win for everyone... in a way, we're all part of the human family.  (9th house again... Sorry.)

Finally, sex for me is a private matter, and talk about it is reserved for intimate conversations.  Again, I don't know if that's due my Mars, or something else in my chart.

LOL NMC, that is really funny...literally late for his own funeral!

I don’t know if tardiness is a Cancer thing... Maybe it’s more like the sideways direction of getting somewhere? My brother always seems to get lost in puttering around on his way somewhere. Or their internal clocks are broken.

I like that, “Thank you, so much, for waiting.” ?

I met recently a Mars in Cancer conjunct the MC from the 9th house.. I wonder if the house placement helps because they always say Mars in Cancer people are very indirect but it's rare I meet such a sincere and genuine person. Nothing indirect or passive about them! They are SO hard-working, always looking out for their family members (esp..mom lol), and a caring and comforting presence all around. 

I've had very good female friends with Mars in Cancer in the past years too. Darling people. So caring and generous of emotional support. I hate seeing people try to take advantage of their kindness at times but they can def. stick up for themselves when need be.

I had one very bad experience with a Mars in Cancer man in the past,  but he had his Mars/Mercury in Cancer exactly opposite Neptune and he was a Gemini so I think it was a very bad example..he was very manipulative and shady and backstabbing. Overly sensitive and incapable of dealing with it in any healthy kind of way. Too bad, I feel like somewhere in there he maybe didn't  realize how much harm he was causing but didn't have the ability to self reflect in any kind of honest way.