Or do they feel like they are and actually everyone can read them? Orrrr in a relationship is it the house person or planet person that is confused or both?? Trying to understand this more bc I’m sun,Jupiter, and Mercury in the 12th house of Virgo with a libra rising I’m so anxious 😬 here lately I’m super quiet on the outside just the past 2 years and I feel so odd at this time .. do you think that would be obvious to people? Or would it make me look more suspicious with the 12th house? Maybe I’m just over thinking it
I think it's closer to the second option. A person tends to be oblivious to what's in their 12th house (up until it's transited), but others can see the planets operating.
That doesn't mean it's obvious. Most people tend to be self-absorbed so they're not analyzing you anyway (unless you're their target). But I do think a sensitive person who recognize you're not at ease. A kind person would step in and try to support you. An unkind person may just observe.
Being unkind it not the only reason. A person could be busy or distracted or whatever, but hopefully you see what I mean.
A horrible person would take advantage of the situation aka kick you when you're down!
Bottom line, there is transparency there and I think a person's lack of awareness of their 12th house is routine... but only until someone informs them.