@PS -- My BML is conjunct Neptune in Scorpio, in my third house; square Saturn/Aqua. Sorry I didn't get back before now...
I noticed that you're in OZ, and there is probably a big difference between dating for women my age here, as opposed to where you are. Anyway, I may take up the quest again after I graduate in May, as I will probably relocate to find better work opportunities in my field. So, maybe something will shift, then, who knows ? I'm fine with whatever, either way.
We got a male stripper for my friend's bachelorette party 2 years ago and I asked the guy what his sign was and he said Scorpio, lol.
Well since my 8th is Cap, it's a good time for staying in and shagging, no?
Let me throw some astrology in here
Mars in 2H opposite Jupiter in 8H, T squared to Uranus in 5H.
But
Mars in Cancer (in its fall)
Jupiter in Capricorn (in its fall, too)
Uranus in Libra
My sex drive is higher than average, but unpredictable and erratic.
Throw into the mix the Saturn - Pluto transits and it's . . . . interesting. 
hmmmm - empty taurus 8th house which yearns to complete my tsquare with jupiter, neptune and venus/merc
I think the tsquare input is interesting here - not sure - but I find that just talking to a guy can get me really worked up. Not sex talk, but witty banter/flirting, intelligent observations, and a show of keen interest on their part have a very powerful effect on me.
It borders on embarassing. I can be innocently enjoying dinner with someone, not thinking about sex at all. just very involved in the conversation, and inevitably find myself getting very excited, *and yet* in every way I'm not really conscious of it aside from the, er... physical evidence.
otherwise it rather slumbers. I see tasty morsels all the time but, eh...they are not mine so I just discreetly admire and keep going.
"You are in your 40s! YOUR SEXY 40s!! Men kill for women in there 40s!
OK, Dress, heels, red lipstick..GO!"
I like this. If I could walk elegantly in heels, I'd try it! I think there is nothing less sexy than me tottering around like a 5 year old in mommys shoes... *Boots* and red lipstick, now that I can manage 😉
beside everything else, i have aquarius on the desc. i just cannot fake this shit. you either have the brain or you have not. that's my bottom line.
Indeed there is no faking that...but why even try?