A while back, my husband had a meeting at work where they gave out a personality test for everyone to complete and he brought it home to me to take as well, saying, "I know which type you will be." So I took the test, but as I took it I had trouble picking answers, because for some of them, it was "when I am in this mood," or "well it depends on the situation," or "I used to be this way but I can't say for sure if I still am."
So my husband is listening to me say these things, and then looks at my answers, after I finally, painstakingly chose them, with caveats. Yes it was that bad 😁 He contradicted a few of my answers, explaining why he did so, said he was surprised I had trouble with some of them because clearly this was the answer because I do or say X, Y and Z. And he was right.
Meanwhile, he took the test easily, got done quickly with zero doubts about his answers, and when I looked at his answers, it all matched up to what I'd pick for him.
So I started to think, do I see myself clearly at all? I guess I know some things, but obviously I am way off with others. I figured I was overthinking, as usual, or maybe I just don't know myself that well.
Has anything like this happened to you? Do you see yourself clearly and well, or do you get muddled like I do? What's the astrology - I am curious!
I'm chalking mine up to Pluto sq. Sun and Mercury, and honestly my Sun/Mercury conjunction is heavily aspected. But I also have Gemini Venus so I can be into a lot of things at once, and on top of that, it is in a t-square with Neptune and Saturn. It is all crazy making!
Years ago, I used to say that I knew myself excellently well! I don't feel this way anymore. Too much denial, projection and defense.
There are some things that I do know, excellently well, but they're minute in comparison to what I don't know..
As for your husband, I bet he's right but also wrong. Like this:
Both people were right, in spite of being opposite.
@elsa What a fun story! Yes, I can see what you mean. My husband knows me well, but there are for sure going to be others who see me differently.
Someone once told my husband he was patient, and I laughed. He laughed too. He is not patient. But also he is patient. In certain circumstances and in certain ways. Just goes to show how multifaceted we all are.
I'm still amazed at people who can see things more black and white. And I can't help but wish I saw myself a bit more clearly. With my personality it would bring me peace!
@dolce my husband took a week off caring for his mother. His brother and sister in law subbed a couple of days.
My husband was told by ladies in there, his brother was mean to his wife. "He's not like you."
"Better ask my wife about that..."
@elsa haha - one of my daughter's friends told her she has "the nicest" mom. My daughter said thanks, but later told me this while giving me a pointed look. I just laughed.
Definitely happens to me in those Myers Briggs or Elements Constitution quizzes. Even in that personality test Elsa offered a link to a few years ago. I stumbled upon it yesterday when cleaning out my phone and some of the scores were so inaccurate. Probably due to the reasons you cited like situations, moods, conflicts, ambiguities, etc.
I have a splash chart with lots of squares and oppositions including Sun Neptune.
@warped yes exactly! I can see the Sun-Neptune aspect contributing for sure.
I've had inaccurate scores as well. It's hard to answer the questions unless you are consistent. (Honestly my husband never changes his personality much regardless of context. He may hold back a bit here and there, like he's not going to curse in a church or a school...but me, I'm the type to adapt everywhere.) There's that 4-types test - choleric, sanguine, melancholic and phlegmatic. I scored one thing and when I read the descriptions I was clearly something else.
My myers-briggs score has been consistent over the years, so I tend to trust that one a bit more.
It's all for fun but I do like how the tests can be helpful too. I find them very interesting.
I thought I knew myself very well, but there's always something to surprise me. I think one of the best things about ageing is the fact these little 'surprises' help to flesh out the knowledge I do have of myself. Plus, it's easier to be kinder to myself when I find something unsavoury I hadn't acknowledged.
Woah. This is deep. We are so wildly complex!! If we have lived a thousand lives? I'm a hot mess when it comes to those tests.
I have seen my inner warthog.
I watched 12 people morph into their dinosaur archetype during a group channeling meditation session.
12 houser Neptune conjunct my progressed Pisces sun. I come here to see who I am.
I need others reflection.
We are more than we think we are. I know that!