Death in my husband's family, overnight. Massive heart attack.
I warned my husband his family was in a whirlwind of shit, in July. Concerned, because his sister is traveling here in this... on the weekend.
@elsa The fixed signs are going to have this all around them for some time, I think. Condolences to your family. Safe travels to sister. It seems like it's just never ending. God... I feel so bad for every fixed sign... all of them. The loss is staggering.
@soup I feel there is more hanging...make me think of bushhogging. It rips up whatever is there and you can't stop it.
This is very different than things I have experienced in my life, which are more internal, still, deep, hidden. It's very different. I can feel it in my chest. Air. It's airy and it goes where it goes. It does not seem containable.
@elsa it's not containable. The ripping is exactly what it is. One day things are things are this way, tomorrow your whole life is different 😖
I’m so sorry. Hope your sister-in-law does well traveling.
My sister and I will be traveling this weekend, too.
Making old fashioned Dilly Casserole Bread - comfort food for, Jilly. She loves dill and vintage, anything. I have the dill and dill seeds in my garden!
Do you tell a demented person, they've lost a family member. This is my mother-in-law, I'm talking about. "She doesn't know what planet she's on", according to my husband.
I say, no. She does not know who the person is anymore, and it could upset her.
My husband isn't sure.
What's the official position on this?? Anyone?
I'm sorry about your family member, Elsa. I agree, no need to tell her since she doesn't remember the person and isn't hoping to see or hear from them.
When I didn't receive a Christmas card from my brother-in-law, I contacted his late wife's cousin who told me that not only had he died months earlier, but his age 50 son had been in a care facility for some time following a series of strokes, but she didn't know where. After some digging she found an old family friend who told her, so she called the facility and was told he was still non-verbal. She vowed to drive the three hours to see him as soon as her own Blood Clot situation was resolved.
I didn't even ask the address to write to him since we'd agreed to say nothing about his dad's death in case he didn't know. I still don't know if she ever made the trip, or whether he ever knew about his dad, but six weeks ago she texted to tell me that now he had died!
So tired of this death crap!
@elsa I don’t know the official position. I agree with you. Why upset her? It does her no good. It’s too hard on the person explaining the death, explaining who it was, and so forth. That’s your husband in this case. He has his own feelings to deal with.
I’m not trying to talk for him. I feel for him.
@elsa I wouldn't. I watched a WWII vet and his wife go through this. She had pretty bad Alzheimer's. I (edit) normally hate liars and lying, but not one of us would say her son was dead if she asked. We'd just say he was playing golf or something. Absolutely no need to torture a soul with that over and over again.
@elsa We dont know the facets of another person's mind.
She already knows on some level, eh?
Its probably upsetting to have dementia already.
could add suffering.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I'm happy to know you have each other.
My Capital one credit card keeps telling me what I deserve.
I'm thinking, dude... shut up! I downvote these ads!
"Your worst sin is that you have destroyed and betrayed yourself for nothing"
- Satoshi Nakamoto
Packs a punch.