I have been amputated a few times by friends. It was very painful and the most painful was maybe not the thought of not seeing them again, but the torture of trying to understand the disappearing act. I would have liked to hear a word before they left... something, anything, but not the ice silence. I needed to understand. I blamed myself, tried to see what I did wrong.

I have been amputated by a Scorpio friend in the past. She decided to forgive me because she loved me, searched for me and we talked. I understood her reasons, now we are closer then ever and I know this is here to stay. It's the only exception in my life in this chapter and I'm so grateful I have her in my life. 

All the amputation pain took me years to heal, because I wanted to know "why?". It would have still hurt, but knowing someone leaves me because of this... or that, would have helped me recover sooner. Understanding/ explaining why is important in my case for healing and closure.

I did recover... but took me so much time.

I was in contact with a girl over internet last summer. We chatted and had a calls for 3 months almost every single day, for hours!

She lives in neighbor country but we speak same language which makes things a lot easier for connection. I wanted to meet her. I was really subtle in the first few weeks but i eventually i opened up and showed a clear desire to meet her.

And then she disappeared (not a day or couple of days after but week or two when i said i want to see her).

I didn't see that coming. The most confusing part about this was she left me a morning message on a break at work (it was almost like routine and i loved it, every time she had a break at job she would text me in the morning). Absolutely nothing unusual, just like any other day.

That was it. I was left on that message. I had to reply you with this short story because of your "WHY". It is absolute torture. I have lot of Virgo and i didn't slept for days thinking about what happened. It took me around 8 months or for feelings to recuperate since that day.

"Why" is definitely the worst that can happen when it comes to amputation. I will never ever do this to nobody in my life. If i have to i'll give at least reason so nobody feel what i felt after and been through.

It hurts, but at least the person knows where they stand with you. There’s a big difference between ghosting someone and telling them ‘I’m done, I don’t want you in my life anymore” I think it’s important to give people some type of closure before amputating, especially if they didn’t do anything to intentionally hurt you.

Merc91 said
I was in contact with a girl over internet last summer. We chatted and had a calls for 3 months almost every single day, for hours!

She lives in neighbor country but we speak same language which makes things a lot easier for connection. I wanted to meet her. I was really subtle in the first few weeks but i eventually i opened up and showed a clear desire to meet her.

And then she disappeared (not a day or couple of days after but week or two when i said i want to see her).

I didn't see that coming. The most confusing part about this was she left me a morning message on a break at work (it was almost like routine and i loved it, every time she had a break at job she would text me in the morning). Absolutely nothing unusual, just like any other day.

That was it. I was left on that message. I had to reply you with this short story because of your "WHY". It is absolute torture. I have lot of Virgo and i didn't slept for days thinking about what happened. It took me around 8 months or for feelings to recuperate since that day.

"Why" is definitely the worst that can happen when it comes to amputation. I will never ever do this to nobody in my life. If i have to i'll give at least reason so nobody feel what i felt after and been through.

  

I have a stellium in Virgo, all personal planets, I know exactly what you mean by losing sleep for days... I will never do this to anyone in my life, like you... I prefer to talk and explain, not leave them in the icy silence.

In my case, I feel so embarrassed that I didn't get it from the beginning and even wrote these persons asking how they are, what is happening, telling them that I worry, asking if something happened to them... when they actually simply decided to cut me out of their life. After I realized this I felt so silly having worried for them...

It got to the point where i started to feel physically bad. I think i did not sleep well for two weeks. Yes messages without reply! Classic isn't it? I tested a water just like you with ordinary questions. It was just pointless but i still had a hope. I left a wall of text as the last message.

That was it. Thank god i healed from that. It was brain torture in the worst possible way. Some people are just like that i guess. The worst part of the whole story was that she also enjoyed being in mutual contact. That made whole situation a lot more confusing.

Thank you GTO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!