Anyone have any solutions?

I find that having Pluto and Moon synastry really amplifies the attachment, making amputation so much more worse, especially for the Pluto person.

This tends to be my situation from time to time, and it's happening now.

Makes me want to watch the depressing, emotional portions of Charlie Brown.

In this case, I think Venus/South Node synastry is at work. If I remember correctly, you have a tight conjunction with this person. You’re the Venus person, they’re the south node person. Sorry for bringing that up if I’m off the mark.

I’ve written quite a bit about my experience with this synastry placement on the forum. Usually, I wonder whether I should say anything if I see this placement when reading a chart at the beginning of someone’s relationship, because I see it as an indicator of an intense karmic relationship, but one that is usually short lived. But, I don’t like to be fatalistic, esp for others, so take it for what it’s worth. Since it seems you might struggling, I figured it my be time to share my take. 

I won’t go too into depth here about my past relationship (have talked about it a lot on the forum). I was the Venus person, and in terms of amputation, looking back, I wish I hadn’t fought it so much. Hanging on made it so much more painful. It took me a few years to find my bearings after that, when we’d only known each other a year. Knowing that it was karmic, I know now that we were tying up loose ends. Maybe I owed him something. I wish I hadn’t held on to the possibility of something between us, or even us being friends, and just accepted this karmic reunion for what it was. I didn’t heal until I finally let go and tied all the loose strings for myself (but it took while). 

Whether you’re the amputater or the amputee, I think letting go with grace, strength, and resolve is key. And protecting your energy. Knowing the karmic signatures in my own chart helped too, in terms of a possible “why.”

This is just my experience with Venus/Node synastry that provides a particular perspective, of course. There’s other astrology as you mentioned to describe particulars. Figured I’d mention it in case it might help, as the interaction you describe feels familiar to me. 

Thanks.

I recall the Venus/S. Node connection, but never looked into.

Makes sense.

She stated that she had a dream about us having either a past or future relationship, child involved. Never elaborated more.

Oddly enough, I'm in many ways happy it has ended. Due to her traumatic past, she prefers submissive men. She has one employee, whom she's now dating, and his entire livelihood is dependent upon her. So, she did do me a favor.

I much prefer honesty. I want my balloons popped. Call me masochistic, but it's a preference. Wearing rose-tinted glasses isn't my style.

I know what you mean about looking at things realistically. I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with being realistic versus fulfilling a self fulfilling prophecy, esp when using astrology to provide insight. It’s a tenuous balance, and part of my own ethics to not let the air out of anyone’s sails if I can avoid it. Life tends to do that enough times for us all, anyway, and nothing’s ever perfect regardless of the synastry.

Glad you see the glass half full:)

That's understandable.

I just spent some time reading on S. Node aspects and all I can think is "get these connections the fuck away from me."

The attraction is so damn apparent, but with concrete partnering. I'm over that nonsense.

As Vercua Salt once said, "I want it, and I want it now!"

Ya, the lessons are fine but it would be nice to not have blue balls at the end.

Oh man, I know what you mean. To be honest, if I know about those connections before hand, I’d probably avoid em in the future. That’s a contentious opinion in astrology, but it’s the truth. I experienced it twice back to back, now that I think about it. Guess I thought that first one was a fluke. Needed that second one to cement my experience I guess lol don’t need to walk through that fire again. 

Seems the lesson could be knowing when one doesn’t need the lesson again (lol). That’s how I’ve taken it. Checking things off the list that I definitely don’t want in a partnership, too. 

Veruca Salt, lol! Hahahahaha.....