I saw this quote that said: If I cut you off, it's you who handed me the scissors. That's how I feel about it.
I was amputated once, by a Leo. It hurt, but I got over it. Mostly, I just felt guilty that something I did hurt them so bad they never wanted to talk to me again. I could see why they felt justified from their perspective and though I would have liked a chance to explain and apologize, I also respect their desire to not want to hear it.
I have amputated too, but never on the first strike... I always give chances, try to work things out and talk it out, but sometimes you reach a point where you realize you're done... done putting effort in when there is no return and when you don't feel valued. So if my presence means nothing then my absence shouldn't either. That's how I justify it to myself and move on.
I think amputating on the first strike, without giving someone a chance to explain themselves or their feelings is too bad, but if you've tried and they keep repeating the pattern, you don't need to feel bad for saving yourself from further pain.
Thank you soup, for bringing up this topic. Very insightful of you, for wanting to understand it and change!
Hard for me to discuss this personally......may currently be in the process of being amputated, by a friend. Friend is a Scorpio Moon.......a Christian.
How Christian is it to amputate someone?
FYI
I believe it is appropriate, to amputate someone if they are abusive, or disrespectful, etc. I have had to do this myself.
What does it feel like? It makes me distrust human nature. If someone cuts me out for something small I feel like there's bigger issues with the person and me. But, at the same time if I did something big, yeah I would get it!
I get it, by the time a person is like 40 (I'm not), they just don't have time and energy to give second chances anymore, but judgment can also be used as weapon against one's own hurts and insecurity. Sometimes people cut people out before the other person can strike, I totally get that.
I find it devastating for the first few months. I'm quite serious about things, Moon conjunct Pluto, Venus in the 11th house.
I will tell you that in a few years it's quite obvious that it was the other person. Not that I'm perfect but information usually comes out and you are like, oh ok.
But really looking back are we surprised once we catch our breath?
Sometimes they're doing you a big favor! You only realize this much later.