Do you have a limit?
I've dated people of all ages. I'm not too attracted to younger guys, although it's been fine for a fun rendezvous.
I know age gaps are common for Venus-Saturn types, but I've also found more success with men a decade older. I'm a deep gal and men post-40 seem to get me more, also less gamey bullshit ... not always of course, but more likely they've gotten their shit together. Reality has set in.
You?
I've never dated anyone younger than me, in my life. I'm enough of a pita, I think a man needs the age and experience.
I think age gap relationships are often quite good though. I've seen plenty that are exceptional.
@elsa yes I agree - for me also - maturity & wisdom.
I've never seriously dated younger, just hook ups. But even then, it's not my natural inkling of attraction like many women I know.
I dated someone 14 years my senior when I was in my early 30’s. It lasted 4 months and most of that time was spent trying to get away from him. I stupidly lent him a little money for Christmas presents for his kids. And I learned he probably had a drug problem and was super insecure. Ew.
I also had a light relationship with another guy who was 8 years my senior when. I did some research work for him then we became friends. He was very focused on his writing and other community activities, never one to settle down. I had a big crush but eventually moved on. We would email occasionally after that. He had written a book about a famous kidnapping in Cleveland. I had my fiber arts business. He ended up ordering from me and it was very friendly and sincere. We followed each other on IG but that’s it. I later got curious as to his updated life and found out he had died in 2021. That was something else 😕.
Other than that the age differences were usually three or four years older than I. My husband is just four years older so it’s really the same age, I feel.
I was madly in love with middle aged movie stars as early as age 4 -- Lee Marvin, still my idea of irresistible. I had crushes on teachers, not classmates, men not boys. I was really meant to be a muse or a trophy wife!
The man I married was actually my youngest, only seven years my senior. He had most of my pre-reqs -- good background, humor, irreverent attitude, dominant personality -- but eventually he deferred to and indulged me too much, original balance gone.
I’ve never dated someone younger. Age and wisdom attracts me. In my 20’s, I briefly dated a man 20 yrs , my senior. He was nice enough but lacked depth, and was very 3D.
He was wealthy and I could have had an easier, cushy life with him but I did Not, and could Not, love someone just for their money.
I was very lucky that my partner of today, took me back. My partner had everything that the rich guy lacked; and it was a lot!. Lesson learnt ✅. My partner’s approx 5 years older than me which is purrfect 😻.