So many of us have been repeatedly hit with the deaths of friends and family recently. As we age, even our peers start dying off. Beyond the usual platitudes, how do you cope? How do you help others cope?
I love this idea for a thread, warped. I wish I knew. I am sitting here, up in the middle of the night.... tears. Missing my mom, dad and really grieving my dil. I wish I could make sense of her loss. It comes in waves. I will be sturdy for a good while. Then I crash again. There is no straight line out of it, that I know. Maybe others can lend some sort of insight or information that helped them. I just know it hurts. I still can't see the way out. I get really sad when I think that my little dil didn't get to live half as long as my elderly parents. I know she would want to be here with her daughter if she could.
I'm a bit numb. I have a lot a of responsibility right now. I'm grateful for it, because it's helps me move through this time.
The biggest help is faith, though. It weird how you can be not making it on one level and making it just fine on another.
On helping others, outside of my work, I feel the best thing I can do is set an example. Demonstrate it can be done, by doing it?
Excellent thread. Thank you.
I found the best job of my entire career about 10 days after my mom died in 2022. It's a long story, but she guided me to that small veterinary clinic. I thrived there and channeled my grief into taking care of the animals.
@lislioness Lis I had no idea you lost your mother also in 2022. I don't remember seeing a thread although I have to say I was all over the place and certainly didn't read here or anywhere every day. I want to say I am so sorry to hear of this. August and then October 2022 is when I lost both my parents. Dad first. Around 5 weeks apart. I didn't even know your mom was sick. I am so sorry for your loss.
@soup Thank you Soup 🩷🩷🩷
She had a heart attack in her sleep. Except for her feeling more tired than usual, there were no signs.
I'm not over it and I don't think I'll ever be.
@lislioness I'm not over it either and I don't think I ever will be. Then when I think harder on it, are we ever able to get over our parents? I don't think so. I am so sorry. My mom went fast too. Here one day, gone the next. I know it's so hard. So so sorry Lis. I did not know xo
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I was also all over the place in 2022. Mr. Cap's college graduation, Baby Scorp's HS graduation, Mom dying and the big move to TN. That was one chaotic year.
I had no idea either, I'm so sorry. And with no warning. But even when we're prepared, it's such a gut punch when it happens.
Even if you end up in a different occupation eventually, it can be a tribute to her if you continue by volunteering at a rescue.
Love this thread. I am the last surviving member, from my nuclear family. I am 67, my two siblings have passed on, and my parents. It’s been a long haul. With Pluto going into my 6th house, my daily life is changing at warp speed, and I am finally moving on, after a lot of loss.
This has probably already been stated somewhere, else here? I feel Pluto in Aquarius, will help everyone with, what is to come personally and collectively.”Some”detachment will help us all, get thru.💜
@soup Some of the things, that have helped me with grief, feel the feelings, and take breaks to nurture yourself, in between.
Go for a walk outside, watch something mindless on TV, go to lunch with a friend, go to yoga. Go to Kirtan, if there is a good one in your area. Go to a grief group, get an individual therapist. Eat healthy. Just somethings that have helped me.
Another thing, there is definitely, the stage of anger, but that is better for the mind and body, to let go of. Actually in the long run, is toxic to the body. I learned this the hard way. I have had alot of chronic illness and cancer in the past.
I hope this helps a little.
One more thing,for nurturing, massage is so great, if you can afford it.