I'm sure it's just as common as actual Rape... Anyone, regardless of gender, can be brutal in going after what they want...

First it depends on what you want...

Second it's about how you go and get that! Aggression or manipulation!

A woman might want to destroy a man, so she accuses him of rape!

Also... women can rape too... by the way... and there are cases of it...

Usually when that happens, it's because the woman was raped by a man... so she becomes angry at men and takes it out on a man... any man! Which is delusional yes... because we're all individuals...

But it's not always for that reason... I'm sure some women out there have a fetish for the idea of raping a man... or sexually harassing a man if you want to get technical about the definition of rape...

the point is it's something soul destroying, serious, and has no real rules to who and why someone is raped! Scary World!

You would have to be pretty tough to make a false accusation of rape. I have known one female psychopath. She could have made up a false rape report and people would have believed her. She is the psychopath who made up a story about having cancer. In my experience, false rape reports are pretty rare. Overwhelming the majority of rapes go unreported and the rapists are never convicted. Rape victims tend to blame themselves for the crime.

In general, rape victims are treated pretty harshly by legal system. If you were drinking at the time of the rape, forget it. The police and prosecutors usually won't touch the case. If you had prior consensual sex with the guy, they won't touch the case. I saw a jury acquit a rapist who pulled a woman off her bike and dragged her off the bike path, because the woman didn't fight enough. She alone and overpowered, but apparently she should have risked her life by fighting.

Regardless of her clothing, her state of sobriety, her sexual habits, or her location, a woman is entitled to say no. In some guy's hotel, she can say no. In his car, she can say no. If a woman is passed out or unconscious, it is rape.

But if both parties are intoxicated, it is difficult. Frankly, it is hard to judge another person's state of intoxication. I knew two sisters who had black outs when drinking. They would look and act a lot less intoxicated than me, but they would not have a clue to what they were doing. Until one sister fess up that she had black outs, I had no clue. I don't know how a guy in a bar would know.

I did not accuse the man of "rape", but I do believe that he acted abusively toward me and when I called him out on the behavior he told me that nothing happened. I have no proof other than an email I sent him after it happend, and that's not proof.

I do however, have a chat from over a year later where he had contacted me because he'd been drunk and horny.

We were both sober and I had consented to a specific activity, in which I was the one in control. When he decided that he was going to take control from me and did not have the common decency to ask or warn me what he was going to do, I felt attacked and withdrew consent. And he tried to talk me into finishing. And I genuinely felt guilty and ashamed like I had done something wrong... like I denied him, withheld sex.

Has anyone here been irrumated w/out consent? It's enough to make you want to throw up. Just because men see something in porn does not mean it's okay to do to someone if you haven't asked first.

I'm sure the SMBD enthusists have strict ground rules about that stuff.

Everyone else I've asked about it said it was abusive. The whole incident/fallout and loss of a "friendship" really put me into a downward spiral. On the upside, I was recently dignosed bipolar which I'm pretty sure I've been living with since I was a child but this was the thing that really set me off and I finally got help.

A newsflash to people who want to call consensual sex rape, it will backfire sooner or later.

When I was single, and now am single again, you cannot believe the amount of married and attached women who would come on to me, it was surreal.

I would have to do work at customers houses sometimes, one girl gave me a full downblouse. Another time she walked by the room i was in half naked. She was married and i won't touch anyone elses women, I did not know at the time that they were getting divorced though, I backed away from it, no business and pleasure for me, it turns out badly.

I do love the ladies though, but they have to be single, lol

Thought I'd contribute to this, having a close experiance with it.

A close friend of mine had a fairly kinky experiance with someone under the age of 18, the nature of which was her idea. She was legal, but even that in of itself paints an extrodinarily bad picture once things make it to the legal and public scale.

The girl in question had a history of bad judgements. Her track record with men was almost always in their 20s, lot's of drug use, etc. My friend was a non-user, and thought he could save her. He's kind of an idiot with a history of making the worst decisions possible.

She wanted to get back with her Ex-boyfriend, and used a rape alligation as a way to do it. He didn't by it so it didn't work, but it got reported to the police by the exboyfriends mother. My friend turned himself in to try and clear things up. He admitted that they drank together and to a detailed report of the sex. Due to the nature of the sex, and the "guilty until innocent mentality" that prevades rape accusations, he was arrested. A few days later the rape was dropped, leaving him with a contribution charge, as the investigator caught her in a few of the lies that she told, but by then his name had been all over local news. He was kicked out of every orginization he belonged to and all group activities he participated in. He was also passed over on a few good jobs as a result. All this, and he was never even charged with rape.

It's nearly a year later and his life isn't recovered. There's a social stigma that surrounds him, he has trouble getting into new things because of how locally public he was, and even though the court dismissed rape without even charging him with it, CPS is finding him guilty of it. Whatever few safe guards and reasonableness there is in the court system, and what little it does to maintain an "innocent until proven guilty", I've learned from his experiances that CPS embodies everything that's wrong with "Guilty until proven innocent" without any of the legal protections the court system at least offers.

As sad as it is, I kinda expect him to kill himself eventually. It's like some people have already said, this isn't one of those things that you ever recover from. It's mark follows you the rest of your life.

It <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">might be politically incorrect to say this, but a false rape accusation is worse than rape, expecially if it goes public and legal. A person that's raped gets help, support, sympathy and every attempt by society and those in their lives to get them through it. Someone that's falsely accused of rape, on the other hand, faces scorn, hatred, outcasting, and generally the wrath of society. They're forever marked for the false accusation, and on top of that they're completely villized by society and virtually forced to make it alone.

Hope this helps.