Hey guys, so this is not my typical posting today.
I went ahead and talked on phone with a guy I thought I might be potentially interested in. He looked good on paper & practically speaking, works broadly in the same field as mine. But idk, I just didn't feel a spark. Which was surprising, considering I thought that coming from the same basic background we would relate more, and now I'm rethinking my way of how I pick people to date. I'm confused....and wondering if I should continue or just let it drop based on first reactions. Here're the charts below (I'm the Virgo sun).
Thanks in advance!
There was just a lot of self-deprecating talk from him that put me off a bit (& I say this as a Cap moon). Mostly a gut feeling on my part....no zing
Idk am I difficult to partner or should I not look for zing....it's just, the no self-confidence put me off. And bashing my hometown people (I didn't say anything similar to him).
@gogol you sound like he rubbed you the wrong way. If you opted out, I think it would be healthy.
My impression fron the convo, is you will need to reassure him, while he criticizes others. What's the upside?
I say go, if you're feeling adventurous. Otherwise cancel and don't worry about it.
If he's the right one, he'll know he screwed up, and do something. Insulting your people, right off the bat, seems, smooth move, Ex-lax, as we used to say.
In short, he doesn't make you happy!
@elsa thanks🙂 he made me feel a bit drained, you're right. Which was surprising, in retrospect to me, when I threw open the charts...all those trines!
Like, he was going on and on over the phone & all I could think was god, I need a smoke
@gogol Oh dear 😅
It not funny but I can feel your vibe. I’ve had a similar experience way back in the day. At the time I was feeling spunky and so I went on the date, really just to check it off the list. And my gut feeling was right but I also got some weird lulz out of it because I think he was doing the same: he actually took out pictures of his ex girlfriend and told me he was looking for someone just like her and who could also bake (showed me a cake she made). Dafuq 🤣🤣🤣😂
Ok! Done and done! 😂
But Elsa is right, if you’re feeling adventurous and have time, you could go and check him out in person I guess. Or not 😃
@allie120 haha thanks I needed the laugh! All kinds of people are out there huh 
I opted out, I don't think it's a good sign & Elsa's right, I should at least feel happy.
Ah well, on to the next one 🤞
There must be a way to return to the old school way of meeting -- instant chemistry or a slow smouldering attraction when people meet in the course of daily life, rather than shopping for a prospective partner.
At work, through mutual friends, at a party, a wedding, church, the gym, at the market, gallery, museum, lecture, class, volunteering, shooting range, on vacation, political group, sports, hobbies, etc. This needs to resurge now that Traditional is coming back in vogue!
@warped Absolutely. That's how my not at all traditional Saggie is scoping out prospects.
I met Big Cap at work. Not surprising with a 6H Virgo Venus. 😉