Look at these words:
caginess
chariness
cynicism
distrust
mistrust
suspicion
wariness
disbelief
doubt
unbelief
scepticism UK
doubtfulness
questioning
dubiety
incredulity
skepticism US
uncertainty
misgiving
incertitude
misgivings
dubiousness
dubitation
reservation
mistrustfulness
query
distrustfulness
misdoubt
qualms
leeriness
qualm
lack of conviction
lack of confidence
confusion
indecision
unsureness
reservations
Not too pretty, huh? They're all associated with the phrase, "lack of trust".
Do you know there is such a thing as a person with so little trust in others, it's nearly disabling?
This is like some crazy phenomena. I wonder if anyone has encountered it or knows anything about it. Like a person has to be wary; every minute someone is about to screw them over.
Lack also of faith in their own ability to defeat or deflect anyone who's about to screw them over.
@warped-by-wuthering-heights That’s what I was thinking. I found that when I worked on trusting others, it really came down to me needing to work on trusting myself.
Some individuals develop a lack of trust in others when they've been subjected to trauma over prolonged periods of time. It happened to me and I still don't fully trust people.
I was looking for the word "paranoia" but did not see it.
In some ways, this phenomenon is odd, because the person who distrusts others suspects that their expectations will not be met, BUT then their expectations for being tricked will be met.
There is a mutual dance happening, whether one likes it or not. Both sides projects their desires, fears, etc unto each other, daring the other person to play the game.
Having a some personal expectations is essential, but beyond that, expecting or forcing them upon others leaves one distraught or disappointed because people cannot be controlled and should be allowed to be who they are. Just calls for appropriate responses.
I know a few who currently cannot trust others at all. What remains is their need to objectify others, dehumanize, which means they are not totally human either. Their energy is stale, dank, pushy, anti-social.
And yet their is the situation of children taken advantage of by adults, or adults who aren't fully aware being taken advantage of too. We tend to sympathize with kids, not "adults", and our reactions to those who claim others are disabling them are "paranoid", "dubious", "conspirators", or just need to get their shit together and deal with it.
This would then result in the "adult" who is not well-adjusted, which more than likely began when the said person was a child. The behavior is learned and relatively fixed but can be changed.
The genocide, violent usurping of land/resources, historical trauma, is very evident in America's history (& other countries) and is very prominent today via epigenetic evidence & social programming by people such as Alfred Kinsey, Pavlov, Edward Berneys, Margeret Sanger, and many more.
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@soup I will eventually find out everything about someone...wether I like it or not, so I’ve just learned to trust THAT. I mean, there’s some shit I don’t want to know lol, but even that stuff comes to light within a matter of time. It’s that Pluto energy that rules exposure of the icky. Forcing that process just seems to cause misery for both parties. Relaxation for Plutonian Scorpionic people is so important I think.
@libra-noirI agree about relaxation. I used to say- who is obsessed? Not me. Are you crazy. I have learned that I can play an endless loop in my mind about whatever I get fixated on. I don't like to force it anymore either. It will come on its own... I say... to myself, relax your mind. Watch a comedy, read, go outside... STOP... because there are things I don't want to know... but in time I will. I will deal with them then, right? It all comes out eventually....
Yes it's a lack of faith to some extent. If your experiences have shown you that you cant put your faith in people, if youve been betrayed, then eventually I think this can happen to anyone over time but even more so if you're the cautious type.
My trust is earned at this point. Virgo influence, Pluto influence, Neptune influence being fooled once too many times I dont know but its made me paranoid.
*Edit: I am not saying it's a good thing either as I know it makes relationships more challenging. Lack of trust doesn't exactly allow love to flourish, at least, not very quickly.