My husband and I noticed something odd whole in our truck and upon inspection he saw the problem (broken bolt on a strut-thing, I think). So he decided to fix it, do the front brakes, and also noticed the CV axles needed to be replaced. I really don’t know auto stuff but he does. He called about for the parts, the bolts, etc and I had to drive ip to Enfield, 30 minutes away for something. Then I fet home and he needs me to go to Chicopee, MA (45 minutes) to get parts. It’s all good. We even worked it all around me being able to train in the morning.
Anyway, apparently the passenger side CV thing is a bear to get off. He’s whacking it with a hammer, every wedge implement, later has me holding the part up while he banged on it (between me doing laundry and making pumpkin bread). 😫
He was at it all day and finally called it a day. This morning we’re up and he’s at it again and I ask, do uou think you’ll get it off ☹️. He says, I have to.
Maybe 30 minutes in, I’m in the bathroom and he knocks on the door. “Can I open the door and I promise I won’t look!” I say,…ok.
He opens the door and in comes that old CV axle part.
I was so incredibly happy 🤣😂 I said OMG that’s amazing 🤩.
And that’s why he’s a real man 🥹😂
Honestly, I am so happy. Sure, I can learn all the part of the truck, eventually learn what needs to be fixed but I don’t have the years of experience and problem-solving and the strength of a man who just does man stuff.
@allie120 Great example of a real man! Love how he brought the axle part inside to show you 🤣, and how thrilled you were 🤣.
@hades-moon 😂 Right? But it was amazing. He fixed it and finished the job and then we could spend the day together and he could stop busting his ass!
@hades-moon I think about all these things he can do and think, wow. He can fix the car because an $8 part broke and he studied the schematics. Someone else might have had to pay $1000 to get it fixed.
These skills are so important. And I do what I can do around here and it works.
@allie120 Yeah, my partner’s the same. It saves a lot of money if your man’s smart n’ handy 👍
My husband and I were watching a program. "I don't like that woman," I said, regarding one of the characters.
"Yeah, she likes to break people up. There are women out there like that. I stay away from them."
"There are?" I said, prompting him.
"Yes, there are women like this; enough of them to be a type."
I was not surprised, I just wanted to see this through a man's eyes.
"I don't have trouble with 'em. I don't trust anyone anyway. I think any woman that approaches me is out to kill me. Seen it too many times."
https://twitter.com/ywomendeservles/status/1851788923871117554
He's got a point.
@elsa Individuals in a minority group tend to become disturbed. He's talking as if women are not a minority group with a history of being chronically controlled, silenced and abused. Thus it's nonsense drivel.
@sophiab well, we're not a minority group, because there are more women then men. But I do agree we're intentionally gaslit with malice, and I expect think it's epically worse than you do.
I do not think it is nonsense or drivel. We do, exactly what he says we do and we might want to think about why.
And this thread is about what real life men think...because women clearly care. These are clear observations on his part. I took the part at the end, where he gives men a pass, to be intended as humorous.
i have noticed that worldwide, women are on the rise in population and there is a huge decline in men. Due to the wars, and i dont think women will ever want to go to war, I dont think it's in us to want that. Although i have seen many female personnel go to war but more behind the scenes.
@elisa wars, plus women live longer in general. I think the average is 6-7 years longer, but this may be an old stat.
alot of men are very simple creatures. i personally believe he's just understanding it in his own simple way.
in truth, our female brains (from what i have studied years ago) have many brain cells. And men's brains tend to be bigger and heavier, (which is why they have more focus in general terms than women do, who have more mulititasking to an art)
it's even as simple as we can have babies and they cannot.
and simple as they are the stronger sex and we are not. Physically speaking.
However, we may be much more emotionally strong (because we can handle having babies, ect)
this is the kind of thing my husband and the men usually think. lol XD
i understand it's simplicity.
@elisa thank you.
What I wanted to accomplish, posting this... well, I've stated this for 20 years +, you are perfectly designed, already.
And also, yes. Women baffled men.
@elsa Ha, I believe that man could stand to cast his net a little wider. I bet if he knew a woman who didn't fit that mold, he'd say "well she's just like a dude!"
@elsa He's totally right lol. And tired too 😆
Women need to be able to laugh at ourselves. Let's just laugh at our quirks and try our best, and love the men who love us.
@dolce I related to this because about twenty years ago, I was fortunate enough to meet this Sagittarian doctor from Cameroon. I wrote about his at the time, he was a gym person. Smart and observant. He had a heavy accent; called me, Ilsa.
Anyway, this man told me something stunning (for me at the time). Just simple and blunt... and if people who read this don't like it, talk to, Denis! It's his male opinion... but anyway I have say this how he said it, because I remember, exactly.
"Well," he said, with his right hand, open, facing up. He was talking about cosmetic surgery. "If a person can't be happy with what, God, gave 'em..."
That's all he said, but in that moment, I was really glad I never got surgery... not that I ever considered it. But I thought this was hardcore, at the time. Like it takes some balls to say something like that, without a care in the world. I took it in.
Within a day or two, I decided to be a person who would be happy with what, God gave me, not that I ever judged anyone who did otherwise. This was a personal decision.
This happened, just as my husband was coming back into the picture. A couple years later, we were at mass on Christmas eve, and who come strolling in- Denis! At that moment, his comment settled, deep in my soul.
It's not just your physical appearance. I think this is a huge piece.
Denis posts are here: https://elsaelsa.com/?s=denis&id=328260 Dude has a way about him, for sure.
@elsa I agree, although I will admit I've been tempted by surgery in my life. It's a failing to me, personally. Others, I feel the same as you. Other people benefit emotionally from plastic surgery. But I aspire to be happy with what God gave me. Some days I am only accepting of it, and that is good enough for me.
I'm glad you ran into Denis and he could say something that brought this home to you. And then you could get back together with your husband 100% happy with yourself as is ☺️
@dolce thanks. I think this is a good thing to tell children, because they are bombarded with being told they're not good enough.. when they're perfect!!
So at least introduce them to the idea, they may be best, exactly as they are!
@elsa That is true, and if they can learn that young (along with humility of course), it would solve a multitude of problems!
@dolce there is a deep truth there (in my opinion), that the schools and media will never share with a child. This is like the stuff old men and others, told me when I was teen. I internalized this stuff and it spared me.
Things like, if you tell the truth, you don't have to track your lies... and you will never be humiliated, when people find out you lied.
Or Scott's sister who told me, if I slept with men in the bar, they'd drive by with their friends and say, " I f'ed the bartender in there... they'll talk about you."
I listened to that as well.
These are life hacks, in my opinion.
@elsa It's true.
I had an uncle who leveled with me and explained things to me here and there. A light bulb would switch on for me. I loved that. I always love that, wherever it comes from, even if the truth is hard.
It would seem that most people are very confused because the world we were born into is designed to make us that way. Confusing (on purpose) to the point where we might deny our own instincts, or even something that is 100% observable. We need more fun clips like this one
and we might want to think about why.
I explained why.
we're not a minority group, because there are more women then men.
A minority group in this case does not refer to numbers it refers to the degree to which a group of people has a voice or say in how the wider group they are in operates, and also expresses something of the experience of those people within the wider group. In this case discrimination.
Unfortunately to break through the system of delusion which is keeping us all captive, men and women alike, women must at first recognise the fact of their status in that system, unpleasant though it may be for the defensive ego to acknowledge. This type of drivel merely maintains the delusion. It suggests women are accountable for the roots of their own disturbance, which is like beating someone up and then telling them, you beat yourself up. This creates a vortex of confusion in a person which means it makes it harder and takes longer for them to break free.
@elsa Elsa, you have not personally offended me. I just wanted to clarify my point about this type of material as misogyny against women seems to be on the rise on the social platforms. i have zero tolerance for this veiled nonsense right now. Mars in Cancer native.
https://twitter.com/KameronBennett/status/1854777947875394028
Again... I can understand, not being able to find a blouse... but I also understand, my husband could find a shirt, in an entire mall.
@elsa In one trip, I can either find nothing at all, or a whole new wardrobe at once. So I'm either taking forever or I'm overspending. And no I don't want to hear about it!
My husband still has clothes from the late 90s, when we were barely adults. He generally only gets new things when I buy them for him.