Well, I've gone and done it. Endured 7 months in a relationship with a man who very likely has borderline personality disorder. I'm not diagnosing. This realization was made in conjunction with a therapist and after hours of reading and journaling and being forced to accept what's really happening. There are 8 of the 9 indications of borderline personality disorder.

This man has Libra Sun and Taurus Moon, with Leo rising (rectified). Mars is in Gemini in an applying square to Pluto in Virgo, and Moon is in Taurus opposite Neptune. Uranus is likely on the ASC in Leo in the 12th house. (Chart has been rectified with 10 notable life events.)

How did I think this relationship would work or end well? Why did I think I would want to preserve the friendship?

What I've experienced is that Mars square Pluto loves to fight, is addicted to conflict, creates conflict in order to be able to fight, and needs to transform from lower octave Mars to higher octave Pluto. Moon opposite Neptune exacerbates the problem in this chart.

This person was born illegitimate to a 16 yr old girl, unwanted, denied by the father to this day, terrible family background, child abuse, sexual abuse (by female neighbors), obsession with combat, violence, frequent fantasies about what he'd do to someone who's pissed him off or done him wrong. 

There is a strong Pisces theme in the life: born with deformed feet, a foot buried on his property (a relative who burned to death on the property). There is also substance abuse (alcohol) and incarcerations (past) and a probation (current) and a problem with lying.

He was discharged from the military after 7 months due to the deformed feet. Would possibly/probably have made a great soldier by being able to channel all that Mars/Pluto energy. The problem is that Moon Neptune clouds reality and reasoning.

Many untruths and omissions have been recently discovered. The bad behavior escalates every time he is about to make a breakthrough.

One more thing: this person is a strong Christian. Doesn't go to church. Reads the Bible/knows the Bible. Too focused on the end times, Satan, satanic attacks, with black and white thinking. This is part of the "splitting" phenomenon common in borderlines. He was told by a prayer group at a church years ago that he has at least 9 demons. If there is such a thing, and I am willing to consider that there is, there is certainly a rage demon in there.

I've always endeavored to learn from relationships and make the best of the worst of them after the fact. However, I really want to be done with this thing of being too empathetic, trying to help, needing help, etc. (Currently in therapy.)

Dealing with betrayal, humiliation, being isolated from others, riding a roller coaster daily, and dealing with the loss of friendship with someone I thought was a very good friend and a possible life partner. Having to end the friendship was difficult but strong boundaries are necessary. It's sad. This person is smart, creative, very talented and a wonderful person when "in his right mind."

I'd appreciate insight from those who have experience with transforming and lifting up the energy of Mars/Pluto and Moon/Neptune, as well as dealing with relationships/friendships with borderlines. 

Have never posted a chart here, but will try in the next post.