"They are not helping people in North Carolina."
"They are helping people in North Carolina.."
"This is fake."
"That is not fake."
"Poison!"
"Not poison."
Now let's just say you value and care for the person you're talking too. You want to maintain the relationship. How do you do this?
I am trying, but I find virtually NO ONE who wants to talk about anything but all the debate points.
Have our lives been reduced to a point where all we do is disagree... or isolate?
Does anyone ONE person agree with any other ONE person, down the line?
Can we ever break this spell. Does anyone (besides me) even want to?
I think I’m better in person because there’s a face there. But I talk to so few people about controversial or debatable topics. Or if I do and we agree, I must sound like a tinfoil hat wearer and I am waiting for them to add some, too. So I get to read the conversation via body language and adjust. There’s no fight (I would hate that) but sometimes it’s not much. And maybe they’re not interested.
OTOH, I have had some good conversations with some people online. Some people are really good at diving in and they offer a hand, so it’s more welcoming. Or sometimes I like to sit on the sidelines and just “listen”.
I’m trying to learn tonlet go more but some days I’m just extra.
Same here! It's so rewarding to recognize and bond with others on the same page, or even a few pages ahead.