Ack!! I dish the silent treatment, but not intentionally.

At times I will get emoationally floored by a comment from left field and I'll get "hurt feelings". For some strange reason, maybe it's a learnt defensive mechanism I'm not sure?? But I close down, and shut up shop.This only happens when the comment comes from a loved one.

It's not that I don't want to talk to them, I just can't.

It's almost like I need to digest what's been said and come to terms with it, and being quiet is how I do this. Now, to stop further angst from loved ones, I say. "I can't talk about this right now."

And when I'm ready to talk I have the "strength" to say what I didn't like about what was said and how it made me feel.

I'm going through this right now with my mother only because there was no other option. She is a triple Sadge and she hurt me deeply, this is my Pisces weapon that she can understand. A withdrawl of my energy is a last resort. After many years of the same argument it just didn't seem worth it anymore.

I feel that I am an expert on this.. The astrology alone explains itself Cap Mercury/Venus/Jupiter/Neptune... Scorpio Asc/Saturn/Pluto.. The post Elsa talks about how Capricorn can cut you with their words (mercury if I am not mistaken; sorry elsa I know I am taking this probably out of context, hopefully some people know this post from last week??) Is pretty spot on.. The problem is not that I am not talking (ie; silent treatment) the problem is most people (sorry yall) cannot handle (sorry a million times) what the hell I mean while saying what I am saying!! The literal translation is just simply way too much during this libra transit (especially!) In a weird way capricorn (in my opinion) is not being manipulative or self-preserving (although I am sure some can be, regardless, but if you got cap I doubt it) it is really in all actuality surpressing oneself in order to keep others on the same playing ground they started on without vocalizing there apparent issues which would skyrocket them to a height which would scare or hurt the other person, usually... badly because knives hurt, as do words, anyone with gemini will tell you.. As this person knows once they do, the argument shifts from a silly thing to an apparent high stakes battle.. it is sometimes easier just to be quite in a method to release anger, hurt, resentment, ect... Men do this alot I feel.. I once heard a quote that most men leave a life of quite desperation... We are all hurting inside.. Just love us a ton (us people that do the silent treatment) don't keep bringing things up, just simply let it go and love us, that helps alot!!!!

@JB i know exactly what you mean but i call bullshit when someone says you can't handle the truth
that's not your decision to make
awfully arrogant and high handed to think it is (imho)
sorry if that hurts - but doesn't that mean you think you are superior or that in any case the partnership is rendered unequal. i don't think people aren't smart enough to not know that they're being thought of as inferior. that in itself is power tripping and an insult - wouldn't you agree

I use it all the time. My Pisces Mercury loves to talk about your true feelings, and my Aries Sun always demands honesty. If we are honest, we can easily come to a compromise somehow. If I know for darn sure I am being lied to, that's it. My Aquarius ASC allows me to end the conversation and move on.

I've frozen out family members because they lied about me on a family vacation due to greed and jealousy. I refuse to be stabbed in the back, or let them try their crap on my children.

There are people in this world who will never listen to reason. They only want to believe what they want to believe, regardless of any facts you put right in front of them. I don't argue with those kind of people. They are not interested in the exchange of ideas or being fair. They are interested in being right and if you don't agree with them, they hound you until you see things their way. Not interested. PEACE in my environment is the result.

I don't do it - my Mercury is too strong - but my husband was pretty good at it. He was an Aquarius Sun with Cancer Moon and Cap Venus. He hardly spoke for a month when he was building up to telling me he didn't want to be married any more - I tried to find out what was bothering him but he just refused to talk about it! Then just dropped the bombshell one day over lunch - no discussion, nothing.

My Dad used to try to retreat into silence in the face of Ma's sandblaster tongue which was loud, incessant and vicious when she 'went off on one' (which was quite frequently, and sometimes for weeks on end). They were both Libra Suns, but chalk and cheese. She'd provoke him til there was a drama, and he took a great deal of provoking...

The real genius at this however is my brother-in-law, and it drives my sister absolutely crazy. He goes into massive silent sulks, while she tries to 'have it all out' - he esp used to do it when angry with their kids. It's weird because he's a Gemini! They have an ultra-strong marriage though.

Another couple I know who had the same syndrome split up when the four kids were older, after a long marriage. It's a shame they were never able to sort through their problems since the guy would just never discuss them with her, ever. If she tried - and she often did - he'd leave the house! they'd laugh aobut it, but in the end he began an affair and left for the other woman. Bad; and totally shocking. I thought that marriage was really solid.