I don't know. What is withholding sex? Sometimes I don't want to do it.

Oh jeez what did I say?

Sexual energy isn't something I'd want to manipulate in that way i.e. withholding.

Whoever witholds the sex holds the power. If there's a power issue in a relationship, guaranteed this will come up.

I always had the stronger sex drive than my partners, and at one point or another they did this. It's because sex is important to me in a relationship - not just for intimacy, but for sheer pleasure. I always seemed to attract passive-aggressive men. Instead of trying to work out an issue (like I tried - too hard, in fact), shit like this would happen.

I hope I've learned my lesson, finally.

Thanks Elsa.