It seems some are always the bridesmaid, never the bride. Others marry as teenagers and stay married (to one or more partners) throughout their lives.
Never married vs always married. These two extremes are both pretty common. What do you make of it?
Is this a case of feeling the grass is greener on the other side?
Do you fall into one of these extremes?
What is your Venus / 7th house situation? Are you happy with it? Satisfied?
Venus in Capricorn 5th House. 7th house Chiron in Pisces. Never married. I do feel the grass is greener on the other side and I would like to meet someone but they’d have to be someone I felt right with.
7th house Chiron too! Venus in Libra/Pluto 12th.
I’ve never been married, but I think the grass is the same on both sides.
I was married at 21years old, going on 8years of marriage. I have Taurus on the 7th house cusp and Gemini Venus rx in the 7th. I honestly don’t want to know what it’s like not being married. I met my husband when I was 16. We just get each other. It’s the one part of life I got lucky in. I know the grass isn’t greener. As lame as it sounds.
Hi,
Sometimes Venus retrograde is finishing relationships from a past life, if so you got an early start. Venus is well posited in seventh,, without seeing chart and adverse aspects,
I would imagine your other relationships are harmonious too.
Married young. Divorced young. Pretty OK with those choices.
Now I have a wonderful little tribe and I’m pretty happy with that, too. I am pretty quiet about it in some ways, and pretty open about it in others. The short version is, I am or have been lovers with most of my close friends, regardless of my “relationship status”, and I like it that way.
Mars/Venus in 2H Cancer opposing Jupiter in 8H Cap and all that squared up a 5H Uranus in Libra. 7H Sag has Moon/Neptune on top each other, directly opposite my Sun/Saturn/Asc in 1H Gemini.
I posted a link of my chart a while back – this has the transits of the last train wreck around the outside, but as it turns out the lines are all just my usual stuff.
If I did it right this is a link
11th house Pisces Venus with a 7th house Scorpio with Uranus.
Serial Monogamist. Engaged twice (19 and 28 yrs).
Grass used to be greener when I was younger. My current partner has taught me to work together instead of bolt when things get tough. I’m working it out. 🙂
(apologize if 2nd post, first went nomnom in da trash)
I think the grass is the same color on both sides, but greener where you water it.
I’ve been married once, I was 20. Divorce was nasty and sudden and surprising, I was 23.
Venus in Pisces (8th), Mercury in Aquarius is in my 7th.
Married for 20 years – but we have been together 27. I just met my soul-mate young, that’s all. I have Taurus on 7th, and Mars there. Venus in Leo 10th house, conjunct Uranus. Before I met my husband I went through men like water, that is for sure. I don’t know about greener on the other side, just people’s lives are what they are.
I got married on my 23rd birthday. Don’t regret it.
Venus in the 9th/Virgo.
I have my sun, Mercury, and Venus in the 7th and I’ve pretty much been partnered since I started dating (albeit with different folks). I am fine with this … it’s actually kind of nice because I know it’s unlikely that I’ll ever be alone. Developing by myself is something that I have had to learn, though, and I have to fight for it because it’s so easy to just be one half of an entity.
I have never married but I have cohabited with 2 partners. After my last break-up I decided I’m not going to live with another partner unless we marry. The problem is…I don’t actually WANT to get married.
oh well, life unfolds as it will, eh?
Venus in Gemini in the 9th. I have Chiron in Aries and North Node in Pisces in a Pisces 7th house.
I just entered middle age unmarried. Relationships in general reduce me to a wobbly baby unsure of how to work this walking business.
But everybody walks eventually.
I have a vague notion that I’m going to have to leave the country to find someone I want to marry and vice versa. 🙂 Which is a notion I like, just not the most convenient thing in the world.
Well even though I’m only 25, I would say that I’m always single. Always. I mean, it is extreme how much. I’m happy about it right now since I have a lot of money/job change stuff to go through (including living with my mom to pay for some bills) and Pluto is off my Venus for a bit. But it sucks. Really, I’ve thought about it so much, and sometimes about how unfair it is, especially when I see intelligent guys go for more submissive types.
I have an empty 7th house in Aquarius, Aries moon, stellium in Cancer….and I’ve also been looking at the whole sign house system lately, and this could be explained by Venus in the 12th, Uranus in the 5th and of course the same asc/dec.
Venus in Sagittarius 10th house. which squares my Moon, Uranus & Pluto in Virgo 7th house. never married.
i don’t think the grass is greener on either side. they both have their pluses and minuses. i’m pretty sure an early marriage wouldn’t have worked well for me though.
i would like a committed relationship of some sort now… preferably with someone who’ll go away on a semi-regular basis. maybe a nice traveling salesman. 😀
Never married, middle age. Love being part of a couple, though I have been in two committed and long-term relationships. These past two years, I had an ah-hah moment…I realized I felt like my need for space/or freedom was freakishly wrong, and it has occured to me that since I believed something was wrong with me, I naturally attracted people who attacked/demeaned or at the very least, misunderstood and put down this need to zip zap and doo dah instead of cooking daily dinner. Or—and this is the kicker…I attracted men who were inordinately unavailable. Which always lead to fights, or my trying to morph into the kind of lover I am not, in order to please.
I know the grass is not greener. I just do not go to that place anymore, but my yearning knows no bounds.
I do like who I am these days, and it took astrology to lead me here.
Gemini Sun/8th house
Venus in Aries 7th house, square Saturn in Capricorn 4th house.. yee-hah!
Never Married or Engaged… But I’m only 22.
But I know the grass in greener on the other side in some cases (My sister met her soul mate in highschool, they are so lovely together)
Empty 7th house (Aries) ruler in 5th
Venus conjucting Pluto in my first house.
I’m painfully aware that I’m not deeply connected to someone. I’m happy all day long and positive, my friends adore me, and my co-workers.. but when I reflect by myself, I feel really unloved, very deep pain, and it’ll depress me. Weird stuff cause I’m happy the rest of the time. LOL!
(((belovedmoon)))
i don’t have the same venus/pluto aspect but i do have venus/pluto in aspect to my moon and i very much relate to what you wrote:
“I’m happy all day long and positive, my friends adore me, and my co-workers.. but when I reflect by myself, I feel really unloved, very deep pain, and it’ll depress me”
i guess it is a 1st house thing…
venus in libra in the eighth house. supposedly a good placement for relationships. but actually… well that’s another story.
Pluto in the 7th house, Venus-Uranus, I got married in February and it was over in May (same year). Grass is my projection anyway, so I started eating from the trees.
Never married, for various reasons not interested in being married.
Aries Moon and Mercury conjunction in the 7th house (Pisces on cusp of the house). Venus conjunct Sun in the eighth house in Taurus (Aries on the cusp of that house though). Pisces Chiron conjunct Saturn in the sixth house, but Chiron is about 1 degree away from the 7th house Pisces cusp. Saturn is sextile Venus. I also have a Venus-Uranus trine and a Venus-Neptune opposition. Yeah, I don’t think I was meant to be married.
Never married, careening toward Old Spinsterdom at soon-to-be 37. Venus in Virgo, 12th house, I mean I’m kind of the textbook perennial single, y’know?
Kashmiri- I agree it’s a first house thing.. How do you “indentify” with Pluto today? LOL!
Conny- OMG! How was the relationship before it even got to the alter? Venus/Uranus, Was it sudden? “Grass is my projection anyway, so I started eating from the trees.” Love it!
Venus in Aries in the 7th. Grass is always greener on the other side. Cohabitated with a few different men briefly through 20’s and 30’s. Also brief (3 yrs) marriage age 36. My Venus trine Uranus & Pluto & square Saturn and Jupiter.
With my natal Venus retrograde….it’s not moving forward into more stable Taurus either…. currently still in Aries & now in my 5th house.
Amy- Thanks for sharing that… Geez, chiron!!I’ve had a suspicion for a while that not everyone with a heavy right side chart is all about sharing with others.. My best friend is heavy 7th/8th/10th/11th… and he wants nothing serious, never marriage or kids, but it very emotionally involved with his close friends and is a caring guy. I’ve look at his chart and think “What the heck?”
Everythings at the bottom of my chart.. however my Chrion is in the 8th all by itself, oppo to sun and everything else in the 2nd… Pain shows up all the time when I try to “Join/share” with someone. (
8TH= Future of serious partnerships… Ugh. I may not be either.
(O.O) Natal Venus Retro. Oh… And your my libra AC/12 friend aren’t you? (WOW, you aries is big, 7th,6th,5th…)
Married three times. I love the grass where I am now. Packed seventh house and Venus in Cancer in the 8th.
51 and never married. Chiron on my Descendant opposite Moon/Uranus. My Venus is conjoined Pluto in Virgo. Saturn in the 5th. Have had loads of trouble just trying to have a committed relationship off the ground. After a long string of noncommital types and longer stretches of not dating at all, am now in a 6-month committed relationship. Feels very nice, so loving the green grass where I am.
I have have various relationships that lasted about 6 months,lived with two of them. I recently got married at 38,lol. My 7th house is empty and I have sag on the cusp. My Venus is in Cancer in the 2nd house and involved in two yods from Aqua Moon and Virgo Pluto and Uranus.
Congrats, miss… time for a name change?? ;-0
Hi BelovedMoon, it didn’t get to the altar, just to the registry office but anyway… before that we were dating for 2 years and then lived together for 4 more years. So, it was pretty established until we signed it. C’est la vie…
Never married and lately, it seems like that’s how I’m introduced… “This is Michele and she’s never been married.” I guess I’ll just put a sticker on my forehead. I’m 40, although the guy at the register carded me today and was surprised. Score.
Venus conjunct Saturn in Aries. Then I have Uranus in the 7th (Libra) conjunct Pluto and inconjunct Venus. I’ve had 3 long-term relationships, but, especially lately, I still feel single when I’m in.
I also have Jupiter rx in the 7th, but someone told me this meant I was to be divorced.
I remember reading that we choose this before jumping into this life. I might want to re-think on the next re-entry.
Jupiter in Taurus conjunct desc., but Venus in Aquarius ruling that, square Uranus. Never married so far, but almost always partnered. My functioning in the world and happiness are about a million times better when I’m partnered, so I’m basically almost never single. I don’t agree with it ideologically at all, but don’t have a clue how I’d change that.
I’ve had a suspicion for a while that not everyone with a heavy right side chart is all about sharing with others
I think that’s true, Beloved Moon, or at least it’s true that it’s not necessarily about sharing in the context of romantic relationships. I’ve never been big on long-term romances – they just never worked for me. Maybe it’s that Mars-Uranus-Pluto stellium in the 12th house opposing Saturn and trining Venus (and my Sun). I’ve always drawn very controlling, highly critical and nitpicky men to me and I’d rather be alone than dealing with that. It’s not what I want.
On the other hand, I love learning new things, and I love even more to share that knowledge with other people. I’ve worked for several years as a professional singer and one of the things I love most about performing is discovering new, unknown music that’s never been done before and putting it out there for others to hear.
Just another way that I like to look at it.
Venus in Gemini in the 9th House, no planets in the 7th House and 5th House, but Chiron in Aquarius is in the 5th.
Got married when I was 20 and widowed when still 20, no other marriages or longer relationships. Committed partnerships seem to avoid me or maybe I have been avoiding them?
The grass doesn’t seem to have any color now when I’m middle-aged. But it was greener anywhere else than in my Aries 7th House, which seems to be barren, no grass at all! I was unhappy for years because I was alone, but now I’m quite pleased to be single and free
Empty 7th, Venus in Sag, Aquarius on the 5th. Guess what? Never married. Couple of disastrous cohabitations though.
Part of me longs for the security of marriage but the other longs for freedom. There must be some way of reconciling the two. Maybe I should move somewhere there’s no grass.
Never been married. from my perspective at this moment, I never will be. I’m in early 30’s.
7th house empty, cusp in Taurus. Venus in Aquarius, 3rd house. Very afflicted.
I don’t crave marriage. I’m not really marrying kind. nothing alluring about that routine. I just crave loving relationship.
I never had any long term relationships before I met my husband. They were all short and not so sweet. My two longest relationships lasted only 9 months. Most of them petered out after 3 or 4 months.
I never figured out why until, ironically, I got married! I want to be with someone (3 planets and DSC in Libra), but I like my freedom at the same time. I value my alone time, and I get really cranky if people invade my space when I don’t want them to.
Venus in Virgo conjunct Pluto and Uranus. Virgo isn’t exactly known for wanting people to hang all over them. 😉
Well, I’ve always been in love with love, though never having it, but optimistic it will come into my life. And still optimistic even now, going into my 30’s unmarried and with a scant romantic history. So yes a large part of me thinks that the grass will be greener.
A crazy mess of things in my relationship sector with a jam packed 7th(Cancer): Moon (leo), Jupiter(leo), Saturn(virgo) and Lilith(leo)
Venus (9th, scorpio)conjunct Uranus & sextile Saturn
I have venus leo and Saturn Leo in the 7th house. Never been married and never really been in a relationship with substance. My heart’s desire is to be married.
Depending on house system, I have both the South Node and Uranus in the 7th house. However I have Taurus on the DES and Libra Sun-Moon, so I like stable, lasting relationships.
After years of serial monogamy (typically lasting 2-3 yrs) I finally married at 44 yrs. That was post Uranus op Uranus and years of figuring out why I avoided commitment.
Hey, it worked because once married I settled in fine and have been quite content (good Taurus on the 7th term . . .) One caveat: Once we decided to get married, we pulled it all together in two weeks – less time to worry!! 😀
Always married. Since age 17 1/2. (am 56 now..) Happily so (of course with ups and downs good years bad years in between years.)
Marriage fits me like a glove.
I know I was Mrs. Stone or Beaver Cleavers mother in another lifetime.
Many fourth house planets in the sign of Cancer.
Saturn and Neptune in Libra in the 7th– my husband is a quirky Aquarian rising, Cancer Sun,Moon in Leo– a combination of eccentric, genius,family loving sensuous guy– we had an intellectual spark first, then physical..it never goes away–either aspect.. I love ’em like the day I met him.
Did I luck out?
Well, in some areas of my life it is an uphill struggle, but marriage–I found my soulmate..
I have Venus in Pisces in the seventh house – I am lost without a partner….I love being part of a couple 🙂
I feel like I’ve said all of my various aspects before a billion times here, but let’s just say that I will forever desperately want a relationship and will be permanently single. Once in a blue moon I have a relationship and then they get sick of me.
I am incredibly jealous of those who settle down with the high school sweetheart. I can deal with being forever single if I have to, but I only briefly enjoyed it with 100% abandon. Sigh. I was born to be codependent and then kicked in the head by love, apparently.
Venus in Taurus in second–I thrive on a nice home, cooking, managing a good homestead and on my family.Love my animals, garden, and do find that I rely sometimes on my possessions as a source of happiness.. I need to have beauty around me, can’t stand messy over crowded rooms , love color and art and have quite a collection if stuff we’ve collected over the years.
I keep things and people a LONG TIME.. I am loyal loyal loyal.
Thanks, Elsa
Married at 21, quite suddenly. Going on 5 years now. Never had any long-term relationships before this. Empty 7th house. Venus in the 12th opposing Mars and trining Jupiter. Always had a strong desire to partner. Also a strong Uranian signature in my chart, and hubby has it in his 7th. Our relationship is odd, surprising, and suits us perfectly.
Sometimes I pine for a solitary existence, but it’s my packed 12th house talking. Realistically I was terribly lonely before this.
I never married and it was not until this past December’s Capricorn New Moon that I realized why I’d made this choice.
And had known then what I know now I would have chosen differerent.
I’ll be 24 in the summer so I don’t exactly qualify for this, but I’m almost always single since 2007. I don’t know if it’s pickiness or just attracting the wrong guys. My sun is in the 7th and I have an unaspected Venus in the 5th. That should give me loads of opportunities….but nope.
I’ve always been in LTR’s
one from age 16-23, one from 23-27 (marriage), and my current one from 28 – present (marriage).
In hindsight I wish I had been single when I was in my teens-early twenties but when in a relationship I never think the grass is greener. I like being in relationships. Uranus in 7th/Venus Aqua trine Jupiter/Saturn
7th house Venus in Virgo. Leo rules my 7th house cusp, however. With Leo’s ruler, the sun, in Libra 8th house.
On the whole, I’ve spent a large portion of my life married. And, even if I weren’t married, the majority of my life has been spent as part of couple. I was married at ages 21, 28 and 38. I can’t answer you today about whether I’m happy about it or not. The jury is kinda out. I’m starting to think that it is a wash. I’ve been single and had periods of happiness and sadness. I’ve been married and had the same. I don’t want to be single when I’m married and I don’t want to be married when I’m single in a grass is greener situation. Anyway, like I said, jury is out still