Patterns in relationship
Elsa, I recently got married to a man that I considered to be perfect. I had never known anyone like him – he didn’t seem to have a lot of the typical “male” behaviors, and I respected and admired that about him. I had asked him about pornography in the past… not in an accusatory […]
Hi Elsa – I have loved a younger man for the last 5 years. I got involved with him because of how he made me feel. But last year, I felt forced to face the age difference. I placed an ultimatum before him to move out if he didn’t get a job, since for the
Dear Elsa, How can I attain the honest, loving, stable relationship that I need and long for? Getting close to me is tough I know especially after two failed marriages. However I remain hopeful in spite of this. Bar scenes are difficult at best, and I find small talk useless and boring. It make me
Dear Elsa, I have dated the same man for the past 5 years. We met when I was nineteen. Over the past five years, I have grown up and he has stayed the same as far as personality and way of life. I supported him while he finished college and I thought we were going
Hi Elsa, My boyfriend and I are opposites in many ways. Our common ground seems to be shrinking and our sex drives, while always mismatched, are vastly different now. He seems to be content with a largely platonic relationship while I need to connect with someone sexually in order to maintain a feeling of closeness.
Dear Elsa, I have a job, a lovely place and money. The only problem is I don’t do well with others. I fear rejection and tend to sabotage any chances for love through coldness and escapism – probably due to my past failed friendships and relationships. I feel like I’m restricted in the area of
Dear Elsa. Since I’ve been a kid, I’ve found it hard to connect with anything or anyone. When I start a hobby, I almost immediately drop it because it’s no longer satisfying to me, or I don’t have enough talent. It’s even more difficult to connect to other people. I become so skeptical and build
