Women Looking For Love In Their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s… Maybe

Can the beginning of a relationship be predicated using astrology? I was asked this, in the forum.

I feel this can be predicted, especially in the case of a serious relationship. Basically, when a person is ready, or should be; this is when a viable partner comes along.  But having someone appropriate for you show up does not mean you secure a relationship. Common sense, really.

We’ve all heard of the, “baby clock”.  There’s a clock ticking on the relationship front as well. I realize, saying this may get me fired on, but the truth of this can’t be denied.  I’m not saying you can’t partner when you’re older. Of course you can. It happens all time.  I’m saying, once you get older, you can’t be acting like you’re seventeen. To attract a viable partner, you have to be a viable partner yourself!

Actual marriage requires commitment. You assume a responsibility for your partner and they do the same for you. In your thirties and beyond, this should be understood.

Keep in mind, Saturn is exalted in Libra.  Real love for grownups, basically. If you aren’t interested, stick with fantasy love or nothing and let me be clear: I don’t a judge a person who opts for this. It’s a sensible choice for some people. I’m writing this for people who are on the fence or confused in some way.   It’s a LARGE group.

If you’re alone and don’t want to be,  you’ve got to live in the real and in the now.  If you wonder why, just ask yourself how hard it would be to partner with someone who can’t or who won’t.  At twenty, with hormones raging, it doesn’t matter. At forty, it most certainly does, unless we’re just talking about people who just want sex for recreation.  I’m not judging that either.

This whole situation is associated with, Romantic Love Is A Psy-op.  Many women (and men, but I am writing for women at the moment), still have fairy tale expectations, not just about meeting Mr. McDreamy, the perfect man, but also about how this meeting is going to occur and how it will all magically come together. Hey! Not in this day and age!

We’re in a time when a good number of relationships begin at a distance. Someone has to move! Even if otherwise, you’re still dealing with at least two sets of parents; often four sets of parents and kids on both sides. If you’re not ready or willing to grapple with this, it’s definitely understandable, but you can see how it will also leave you on the outside. It’s not possible for the other to deal with this for you.

I’m making it sound as if love is a battlefield; well maybe it is and maybe it always has been.

If you’re questioning things like this, I can absolutely help you sort it. I’m talking about discussing exactly what the challenges are and what true partnership would really look like for you, in particular.

I can also describe the type partner that would work for you as well as who you should exclude.  Your kryptonite?  It’s about what is realistic and I will offer a personal example.

I have Uranus in the 7th house. I also have Venus square Neptune.  Can you see how having space from a partner, and then pining over it, fits my chart? I also insist on loyalty and you may have noticed I have a mouth on me, that won’t quit.

Now this is real. The non-makeup version of me. Is it realistic for me to think a man can come along and provide me with endless bliss? It’s ridiculous.  I’m a mess, just like everyone else!

The picture is meant to denote indecision. If you can take or leave a relationship, you can’t expect someone to seriously invest in you, regardless of what TikTok says. No at forty years old. To partner in the real world, means you have to live in the real world.  Relationships require compromise.  Your partner will never be perfect and neither will you, so hey! Looks like we have a match!

Back to the astrology, it will show when serious partnering is the main concern, whether you opt in or not.  This is not what is shown in movies. For example, you’re are not likely to meet the love of your life, while in the middle of a cross-country move. There’s logic to this and yes, of course, it’s shown in the map.

I’m here to help anyone navigate their way into a change on this front.  My credentials are hardcore in that I have every problem under the sun, personally and I have resolved these challenges. I also have a lifelong interest in relationship dynamics. Most importantly, I’ve been able to help countless individuals and couples secure this area of their life over the course of more than three decades. I keep up on this stuff, period, so if you want an expert, I’m her.