Why do some people NEED approval from others? Usually others they see as above them? What prevents them from standing on their own? I feel like this is an afflicted Sun but I'm not sure of the astrology.
ETA: I picture someone who makes choices with the idea that they are being watched by the person/people s/he needs approval from, even though that person is not there, nor does that person care what they do. "I'll buy this shirt because she'd like it." But the shirt doesn't necessarily suit them.
Could be some Saturn placement, too. I have Saturn opposite my AC. It can cause much self-doubt until you mature and find your way and a way to analyze and/or deal with it. My Saturn return really made me reevaluate some of these things I experienced and put a new perspective on it.
Yes, to Saturn. I have the opposition to the Sun and I have had to work hard to disengage that approval seeking behavior.
It is like it’s in the DNA - fear of being attacked or mocked for being yourself. I have seen this with lots of people with hard aspects to their Saturn, not just myself. It’s not necessarily even from events in the person's life that’s why it seems like it could be in the dna.
Dolce, does this surprise you or seem strange? And what’s the astrology - do you have Saturn trine the Sun? Just curious.
I can confirm on the Saturn aspect. I have Saturn in my ascendant in Capricorn. It is only sextiling Sun in my chart, but I also have this fear of looking weird if I express myself or that I will be mocked. And I also feel inhibited sometimes. I am slowly trying to push myself and work with Saturn.
No, not strange or surprising. I think Saturn can beat us down pretty bad, especially in harsh aspect. I have it square my Venus and I have some pretty obvious issues concerning that. It sucks. As for my Sun, it sextiles Saturn.
I understand the being mocked for being yourself. I've experienced that through my dad (Sun sq. Pluto). That seems like something that can follow you forever. And the people whose approval someone needs tend to fit a certain type. For a long while I needed approval from older men. I cringe thinking about it now.
Your DNA comment is interesting - I wonder if the harsh Saturn aspect makes it reality or only a fear. Maybe both, one the result of the other?
My daughter has Saturn conjunct her ascendant as well, and Sun. I sometimes feel she is inhibited in expression like you describe, but it's all in Scorpio so I'm not sure!