Im sorry you are in pain. Im sending you my love. 

Lets be friends, you would be like the 3rd friend I have whose Mars is in Scorpio lol. Not all of you are bad people, some of you are cool as fuck but the more problematic people with your placement need to be taught a lesson.

My mother is a Gemini Sun with a Scorpio Mars. Jesus.  We have had epic and I mean epic wars of words. But it's not necessarily what she says that makes me fearful, it's her secrecy and cunning behind the scenes, her plotting ways, her webs of deception that she weaves into the ordinary, basic threads of my life for reasons only known to her.  

In war, she is not above using anything against you; she is cutthroat. She can smile in your face all the while seriously planning the details of your demise in her head.  And she always gets her revenge. Always.

My high school friend had Mars in Scorpio. He fights with intense passion, but I never understood what he chose to fight about.

For example, his parents helicoptered over him, big time. Even after he became an adult, they told him that he wasn't allowed to go to rock concerts and other things that he wanted. His male friends absolutely roasted him for it (rather unkindly), and his response was to tell them to GTFO. Which was understandable, but at the same time he could not stand up to his parents at all.

Now he's in his late 40s and has never moved out of his parents' house.

That's interesting. Like the power has been inverted by the parents behaviour. There are echoes of my Scorpio Mars line manager who had real issues with her mother. Her parents divorced and she is estranged from her. She hated her because - she made her learn an instrument and go on holiday to Europe! I guess someone with a fixed nature doesn't like to be forced. She is bulimic and is not a happy person, externalising that control / power into covertly bullying others. It will be amazing to see how she survives in the real world after her suspension. Despite her accumulated wealth she still rents as a lodger. In a few years she will hit her second Saturn Return, maybe that will trigger something new. Hopefully your friend will find a way out. I think that hidden power must must eat away at a person unless they find some kind of epiphany. I honestly do feel sorry for her and at times I even admired her cleverness (I have Scorpio rising). But her propensity for using her power to undermine while appearing saintly is truly quite evil, I can think of no other word.

lol jeeezz all the scorpio mars sound so scary XD  *run away!! lol  I dont know that many to be honest. Mostly suns and venus and moons in scorpios but hardly any mars.  the closest scorpio mars i know is my aunty who is a pisces sun, aries moon. And she married an Aquarius man with Capricorn mars. LOL so i guess he is strong enough for HER ;p  (oops edit -- they both have Aqua venus) Well my aunty is the sweetest woman, or actually one of the sweetest ladies i know in my entire life. Always so good to me. She lives far but whenever we visit it's so awesome. 

But reading through the topic, some of these scorpio mars are so scary. It's not a wonder that Scorpio does not do well in the sign of "love'(Venus)  which why it's detriment in both Scorpio and Aries (the fighters) makes alot of sense. the fighting style goes well in Mars.