I have an 11th Libra moon, and by far, most interactions with my mother were emotionally detached ones focused upon artistic expressions that she was making that pertained to giving them to a wider audience outside the home and wanted my assistance with or with showing appreciation and encouragement for me to do the same with mine.

My Moon is conjunct Venus/Mercury/Pluto, semisquare Jupiter, and quincunx Chiron, though, so reflections upon the sign and house of my Moon barely scratch the surface.

Her Capricorn Moon was the only placement either of my parents put below my horizon.

A profound truth stated to me several months ago ado with what the mentally ill need being love and compassion struck a pretty deep chord because my father has said those words, 'I love you', less than a handful of times in my life and only as a response to me expressing it first.  The only times my mother ever said it was when I was grossly failing at meeting their expectations of me to be a responsible, law-abiding, constructive member of society.

By and large, those one may expect to be the greatest source of love and compassion in life are and were for me the greatest source of negative criticism.

It's a common thread throughout my life, that others are unable to perceive what I need to feel fulfilled or accepted in life despite the plethora of ways I try to make bids for it from others until I am so imbalanced or upset about it that it comes out as rage against the lack of it, which has only served to negatively reinforce the compulsive behavior of keeping the pain bottled up until it boils over.

Don't get me wrong, I have no hate or resentment at all towards either of my parents whatsoever and could fill volumes with everything I am appreciate of they did and that my father continues to do for me, but that doesn't mean I can't rationally self-reflect within the context of instinctual compulsions as a result of childhood and early adulthood dynamics in the relationships with them.

10th house Scorpio moon. Extremely antagonistic, emotionally violent relationship with Capricorn sun and moon mother. 

My Gemini mom has an eighth house Aquarius moon. I'm an Aquarian with a first house Virgo moon. My moon squares Neptune in the fourth tight, trines Mars in the fifth, opposes Mercury in the seventh and squares Saturn in the tenth. My relationship with my mom has been extremely complicated and challenging. I made her cry on the phone a couple of days ago over a stupid Ulta gift card. Long story. I don't think there will ever be resolution, peace, understanding between us. She texted me a few days ago that she doesn't know how I've survived depression all my life. She's getting a taste of it now and is at a loss. I told her the meds never helped. I've stayed alive because of books, art, creativity. I'm eating well. Meditating. Exercising. She doesn't value my advice. If it weren't for my son we wouldn't communicate at all.

I have a 4th house Aqua Moon, my mother 4th house Cap Moon, not sure how that affects things, except perhaps by Cap being (normally) a fairly strict sign.

But her Moon is exactly opposite my Venus, which also happens to be my "worst" planet (having only one aspect in natel - square Neptune), so perhaps her Moon opposition didn't help, in fact probably made things worse...

The relationship with my mother was awkward. I always felt I wasn't up to whatever she expected of me (I don't know what) and feeling negatively judged by her. I felt any expression of feminity on my part was considered wrong. Consequently, I've never felt at ease with my feminin self, thereby "sub stardard" to other girls/women and of course below shit in relation to men.

Yeah, that Venus is really the pits. Luckily my Moon in Aqua probably cools the emotions.

Both my mother and I have Pluto opposite Moon. I do think she didn't like herself and this somehow resonated in me - not crazy about myself either!

Mostly none of this was expressed openly, it was more like a spook. You feel like shit, but you dont know why. 

I think your moon can be how you perceive your mother (primary caretaker). I have Virgo moon in the first. I always felt my mother was so very critical of me. She was always correcting me, she would hover and comment when I cooked or baked, cleaned my room. I often believed the same things she did, because I thought I was supposed to and that she would like me. 

This was my perception and reaction to her. I had to grow apart from that to see that her Cancer moon just wanted to nurture and pass on the things she knew. 

What's interesting is that she has Pluto conjunct her ascendant. I am moon Pluto conjunct. My brother has an 8th house moon. 

I think the most important thing is to acknowledge that it could be how you perceived her and not be bound to it (if it's hurting you as an adult). I have moved past most of it, although not all. Not sure if maybe that is my own Pluto...so I'm not done yet ?