Are you talking about Black Moon Lilith? There are like 3 Liliths, so I just wanted to be sure which one you were talking about because I don't know anything about how they work. Does Lilith act like a dark Venus?
"MIL is fine with grey areas. like not being the one the man comes home to."
Do you think fiery mars signs are more likely to have this attitude?
I am still trying to find the thread, but there was discussion somewhere about when Venus (love) is in the 12th (secret/hidden) that it could indicate possible hidden affairs. Just one way it could manifest.
Julia said
yes to libra mars,yes to venus-Neptune (the square, conjunction or opposition)
yes to 8th house venus or multiple female planets (moon, venus or Neptune in the 8th
Ive seen these aspects play out on at least one mistress I know (I know quite a few...lol), different combos...all of these mistresses had Neptune-Saturn conjunction in synastry as well as Uranus to Venus or other personal planets with their sugardaddies.
How interesting! Neptune-Saturn conj. in synastry... the Uranus to Venus I can see, but I am still trying to figure out the Neptune-Saturn connection.
I wonder what the difference between having 8th house Venus vs. Mars would be?
sand said
i don't think it's about morals. that's jupiter. MIL is fine with grey areas. like not being the one the man comes home to. only my observation of course.
Yes, I could live with not being the one the man comes home to. I'm not a possesive person in that way. I've been in what would qualify as an open relationship. But I could never blindsight another woman. I think this would hold true to anyone with a strong Libra. Remember, Libras see both sides. 
In case a Libra Mars isn't doing this, I'd look for aspects to Mars. Libra Mars people in their mid-20's now could have Mars square Neptune. Mine is basically a Peregrin Planet. I wouldn't count the Moon square Mars, since the orb is 9 degrees.
Then again, I have a Jupiter in the 9th house, quite near my MC, and definitely as the highest planet of my chart. People always are surprised of the fact I'm not all prim and proper. Mostly, yes, but not all.
It's Venus/Mars inconjunct as well. You're caught up in triangle relationships.
Venus/Neptune for sure but I also think Venus/Saturn.
Therefore I don't believe it's just one specific aspect, more what is the reason
that you get into those type of relationship.
I know women who are feeling very well with it, yet others feel used and still can't get out.
Roshambo said
@elisaAre you talking about Black Moon Lilith? There are like 3 Liliths, so I just wanted to be sure which one you were talking about because I don't know anything about how they work. Does Lilith act like a dark Venus?
"MIL is fine with grey areas. like not being the one the man comes home to."
Do you think fiery mars signs are more likely to have this attitude?
I am still trying to find the thread, but there was discussion somewhere about when Venus (love) is in the 12th (secret/hidden) that it could indicate possible hidden affairs. Just one way it could manifest.
idk this was specifically a convo i had with a MIL. in her mind she was more loved. so even if she was not the one they came home to she thought she was more loved. r u a fire mars?
sand said
Roshambo said
@elisaAre you talking about Black Moon Lilith? There are like 3 Liliths, so I just wanted to be sure which one you were talking about because I don't know anything about how they work. Does Lilith act like a dark Venus?
"MIL is fine with grey areas. like not being the one the man comes home to."
Do you think fiery mars signs are more likely to have this attitude?
I am still trying to find the thread, but there was discussion somewhere about when Venus (love) is in the 12th (secret/hidden) that it could indicate possible hidden affairs. Just one way it could manifest.
idk this was specifically a convo i had with a MIL. in her mind she was more loved. so even if she was not the one they came home to she thought she was more loved. r u a fire mars?
Interesting, feeling more loved. Maybe because she got the fun parts and not the day to day stuff.
I'm an air mars.