I’m just gonna focus on breaking down the presence of Pluto in your natal chart. I wonder if sex and death are tied together for you with that Pluto in the eighth house opposing both of your luminaries? You don’t have to tell us, just something to consider. 

Because If there’s one thing I’ve learned from Pluto it’s that death is really transformation. Sometimes our minds want to conceptualize it as actual death but that’s really what we are drawn to with Pluto. That understanding really helped me to put my darker fascinations into perspective and also helped me to accept them so that I could explore them more deeply without hurting myself or others. 

Also with Pluto oppositions you will project your desire to transform onto others or other things, so you will need outward catalysts in the form of relationships. As opposed to me who has Pluto conjunct Sun where my desire to transform is internally driven and I’m often the catalyst for others. 

As far as your dream; I always ask how it felt because that gives a big signpost on where to look as far as personal meaning. I mean, if you were terrified that would be different than if you liked it. Although the answer could be that you were both terrified and that you liked being terrified. A lot of nuance to explore there. The archetypal meaning could be that your communication is stifled by him (throat chakra)? Or putting it into the framework of death actually being transformative then maybe your interactions with him are actually transforming you or you want them to. 

I guess anyone in that age group’s Pluto would oppose your Sun but his nn is also there on your Sun/Moon so there’s a karmic thing going on with him and you too.