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buendia
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Hoping to gain some insight and wisdom from those of you with experience.

What have your relationships (particularly romantic, but other relationships, too) been like as you’ve reached your 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, and beyond? How are they different from your 20’s and 30’s? Or are they? At what age were you dating, and when did you partner long term?

Looking back, is there anything you would do differently?

What has made your marriage or partnership successful? What about your friendships and other relationships?

Are you single?

Whatever your situation, are you satisfied? Content?

Can you name the astrology? What are the 5th and 7th houses doing in your chart? The 8th? What about your Moon and Venus placements?

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This is a simple question for me. I had a LONG puppyhood. Relationships to me, were all about fun and play (Venus in Leo) and more fun and play (Mars and Mercury in Libra / 9th).

Fun, fun, fun and jokes. If it became un-fun or un-funny, I was out of there, as was my partner.

I got serious with Saturn transiting my 7th - deeply committed with Saturn transiting my 8th. What I learned, stuck.  So for me it was about maturity.

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@elsa I relate to this. When I look back, I feel like my relationships have never really moved out of the 5th House, even my 12 year relationship. My 5th is Saturn ruled, so I'm always ready to commit. Probably too ready, too soon, though, which is part of maturing I think. Actually taking the time to see if it's worth my while. Two relationships, our composite Sun was in the 5th, and the third, my Sun was in his 5th. With these people, we never really merged, never combined forces towards a common goal or something like that. Yeah, fun, like you said, and indulgence. 

So I'm trying to find my way to the 7th house. I'm a little gun shy at this point. When I'm single, I feel okay being single, but then some romance comes my way, and...I'm back in the 5th house. Frustrated and feeling a bit hopeless. 

Saturn will trine my natal Venus right before it enters my 7th house when it ingresses into Aries. So I guess now is a good time to get my head straight and my shit together. Health, work, finances, etc. 

Thanks for your reply, Elsa.

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@buendia when I look at things today, I see people who can function in relationships and people who can't, for whatever reason, including free choice. 

People who are serious about relationships bypass people who aren't. They've had sufficient? 

You may be trying to cross over.

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@elsa I am, and trying to figure out what it takes.

My past partners have avoided considering marriage, for one reason or another. Honestly, I think I have, too, and I'm realizing now, well, ya, this what you get. 

Fear of divorce has really done a number on people. Either going through it, or watching our parents go through it. That's one thing that held me back when I was younger. 

I was talking to my mom recently and she said she thinks people give up too easily. I think she would have done things differently. She and my dad were married for over 20 years and divorced. Same with the parents of my 12 year partner. I think we bonded over not wanting to ever be invested enough to ever reach the possibility of divorce. Wow:/.

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@buendia I'm back to say, you've touched on one of the most important issues for your generation as well as those who follow you. I understand this very well. I'm trying to think how I might address it without starting a bonfire.

It seems clear you're becoming aware you have developed a defense which no longer serves you. Saturn in Pisces can dissolve it.

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Posted by: @buendia

I think we bonded over not wanting to ever be invested enough to ever reach the possibility of divorce. Wow:/.

Quite an insight.

 

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