I’m sure many of you who know me here know that my husband loves to host the holidays. He’s a Cancer sun, Sagg rising, Libra moon. I’ve been with him 24 years so I’ve been attending, helping, and hosting.
Our biggest family gathering is Christmas Eve Day (topping Thanksgiving as the second). I love it, too. A few years ago we started doing a Yankee swap and two years ago was the first time L (oldest granddaughter) participated (kinda sorta). Last year she understood it a little more and she enjoyed it! We think we’re going to ask everyone maybe put some candy or a little thing in the gift, so she’ll always get something a 8-9 year old wants (the swap isn’t vulgar, but there’s wine, things adults use).
Last year when it was done my husband mentioned how they used to go to his aunt and uncle’s when he was a kid and how much fun that was and how he still loves those memories. He said, these are times L and S will remember forever.
That’s so sweet and true. Up until I was 7 or 8 we had big family holidays with my aunt, her parents, my uncle, cousins, grandparents. It was so much fun. Then everyone moved away, retirement and job relocation, and it stopped. And then it was just my immediate family. And then when I was in my teens my dad was drinking a lot and my mom would get mad and a couple holidays were my dad passed out and my mom mad and crying in the bedroom and my brother, sister, and I just looking at the dinner.
It wasn’t all 100% bad or good because that’s how things are. But it feels like the bookends are the most prominent.
So you make your own memories 😃