Hi guys!
Im new here and i'm really struggling to work out why i'm in the relationship i'm in. Or how to get out of it/work through it.
| Me | Aspect | Him | Orb/Value | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Moon | Square | Pluto | 0.18 | -127 |
| Mercury | Square | Pluto | 2.06 | -80 |
| Venus | Conjunction | Venus | 0.08 | 79 |
| Venus | Opposition | Saturn | 3.37 | -48 |
| Venus | Opposition | Neptune | 3.55 | -38 |
| Venus | Trine | Pluto | 2.37 | 39 |
| Mars | Square | Pluto | 1.07 | -87 |
| Jupiter | Square | Pluto | 2.07 | -65 |
| Neptune | Conjunction | Uranus | 2.35 | 70 |
| Pluto | Square | Mars | 1.46 | -75 |
| Pluto | Sextile | Uranus | 1.23 | 35 |
| Ascendant | Opposition | Jupiter | 2.23 | -56 |
| 223 | -576 | -353 | ||
This is our synastry... are we completely doomed? Is there any way out?
We've been on and off for about two years and i'm not sure how we will ever work things out without seriously hurting eachother. Last year we split for more than nine months, however maintained contact on and off. This year he moved to my city to make it work.
We really do love eachother so much, but i almost feel addicted to him, our fights have become explosive and violent on occasion. This sounds nuts but I know i need to leave I just cant. We both seem to want to control and manipulate eachother... When we are together we are amazing, just apart theres a lot of insecurity, jealousy, possesiveness. I dont know what to do anymore.
I've checked our current transits and we both have Venus opposite pluto present since December 2014 all the way through until December 2017... will we finally be at peace when this transit ends? Or does it mean we will have finally moved on?
This might sound silly but i'm not sure where else to turn for advice. Anyone been in a similar relationship with this synastry, or have any advice on the Venus opposite Pluto transit?
If you are going to get an answer to this kind of question, and I don't know if you are these types of comments are responded to or not pretty much randomly as far as I can tell. You will have to post a chart that is more legible than the one you have posted... No signs or houses?
Sometimes things just have to be ridden out with Pluto stuff. You have a lot of Pluto contacts but I think what you're describing can be pinpointed in the mutual mars/Pluto squares you have going on.
Phoenix9061210 said
If you are going to get an answer to this kind of question, and I don't know if you are these types of comments are responded to or not pretty much randomly as far as I can tell. You will have to post a chart that is more legible than the one you have posted... No signs or houses?
Ok sure... here is my Chart, and his... however I cant remember his exact birth time i'll have to ask him.
Libra Noir said
Sometimes things just have to be ridden out with Pluto stuff. You have a lot of Pluto contacts but I think what you're describing can be pinpointed in the mutual mars/Pluto squares you have going on.
Yes I have a feeling perhaps all I can do is wait.
I was reading in another thread that Pluto transits can bring out the worst in our personalities generally?
Well Pluto brings the dark into light to transmute it. So it can bring issues like possessiveness and fear into our awareness. But only so that we can be free of them. With Pluto opposing your venus' your love natures will be transformed into something healthier.
And it's kinda cool your venus' are conjunct. Because, although it might seem like this other person is bringing this stuff up for you and you might resent them for it, they are just a catalyst for your growth.
And he's going through it too! If you guys combined forces it could be so amazing for you. I believe you when you say that you love eachother.
Im not sure what you're level of personal development is or your age so it's hard for me to give further advice. But what's coming to me is some sort of kundalini practice you could do together. Or study the Kama sutra together. Or just make a ritual of touching each others heart chakras and breathing together. Those mars/Pluto squares can be tense because there's so much sexual energy and it can come out kinda twisted in the form of possessiveness. But if it's channeled, wow.