I had one boss with an anger problem. Other than that, I've been really lucky. It's got to be tortuous.

My current boss. He has many traits that are common in narcissistic personality disorder. I can't say he has it, although when a co-worker told about certain experiences she'd had with him to her mother, the mother, who is a psychiatric nurse also told her to stay allert, because his behavior was textbook.

He is charming, in his way, at first. People tend to trust him the first time they meet him. Even I did, I thought he was a direct, hard working country boy. But when you spend some time with him, you realize he can deal with any critizism. It doesn't even have to be directed to him, either. It's enough to have a differing view on how a problem should be fixed. Also, I've caught him of telling outright lies about people. For instance, he has told me someone at work has said things I know they haven't. He has lied about what he has said to me to his bosses. I understand his bosses can't take sides in a matter where two people have completely conflicting view about a matter. But at least they've required certain communication in writing, "to avoid misunderstandings".

I don't think he is the biggest problem at my current work, for me now. But the fact that his superiors continue trusting him with managing a dozen of people has made me somewhat cynical about the organization I work for. He isn't bringing the best results possible, he is driving away some of the best employees in their position, and yet, he stays where he is.

There was a woman at my last workplace who I'm fairly sure had/has an undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She'd target people who had offended her in some way, make huge efforts to recruit others to her "cause" of getting rid of the hated coworker(s), loved to badmouth people behind their backs if they didn't agree about how wonderful she was... would tell outright lies. This would go on for years even when the target wasn't doing anything to provoke her behaviour.

It made the workplace incredibly unpleasant.

Oh, and she hated disabled people and stated baldly that we "shouldn't even exist". Her supporters/minions thought this was tremendously funny. Of course, she'd only say things like that when there were no supervisors or managers within hearing range.

Yes & I got absolutely nowhere. Thing is, you are fighting a DISORDER... there is no logical way to battle that. I suppose you could pit the person against themselves. I didn't go that far. I threw in the towel, I was becoming exhausted & perhaps even more loopy than they were

@McKenna -- "Loopy" lol  

One gal at work comes to mind...I got to a point in my mind I don't care what she says or does. I've let it go.

She's a control freak. And in the two years I've dealt with her, I'm careful what I say as it's like slipping on a banana peel or trying to avoid a land mine.

She's perfect (read: she makes mistakes too) however gets on others for their mistakes.

Not sure "what" disorder it may be.

sunnyP said
@McKenna -- "Loopy" lol  

One gal at work comes to mind...I got to a point in my mind I don't care what she says or does. I've let it go.

She's a control freak. And in the two years I've dealt with her, I'm careful what I say as it's like slipping on a banana peel or trying to avoid a land mine.

She's perfect (read: she makes mistakes too) however gets on others for their mistakes.

Not sure "what" disorder it may be.

Maybe a mix of OCD, depressive (not the same thing as depression, an illness that can people not meeting any personality disorder cathegory) and passive-aggressive behavior? Depressive type of personality is actually a subcathegory of depressive personality disorder, but I think these may co-exist with OCD. I've had two co-workers with these traits. Another of them might have had an untreated and undiagnosed bipolar disorder, though.

And oh, if someone wonders about how come I've had this many colleagues with personality disorders, I've had over 40 people work at the same branch/office I work at in the past 5 years or so, well over 70 close co-workers in the company I've work for almost 9 years now and over 100 all together. Given that the prevalence of personlity disorders in general public is up to 10 per cent, it's somewhat expected I can say 3 out of these 100 had some sort of a problem, given many people with PD aren't able to function in work life, and are either unemployed or have short term employments. It's also said people with narcissistic disorder are most "high functioning" at workplaces, they even often get to position of authority, and I can't argue against this, based on my experience.

I've had other difficult to deal with co-workers too, but these three really stick out as "something else".