ScottishFoldSoul said
I love what Bob Marley said about relationships: "The truth is everyone is going to hurt you. What you have to decide is who's worth suffering for."Teresina, it's so uplifting to read that you and your spouse met at low points and supported and comforted each other. It flies in the face of all that pop psychology malarkey about how you have to be completely okay and content alone. Being able to survive alone is one thing, feeling real joy is something else.
Heartily agree @ Teresina! And I love that Bob Marley quote. I think new (love) relationships tend to make me anxious/squirrelly, which I think has been exacerbated by my depression. It seems like one step forward, two steps back in love right now.
I recently understood about myself: the beginnings of important relationships, for me, include moments of feeling freaked out. Utter surprise, disbelief, and panic, briefly. To paraphrase something that W.P. Kinsella wrote, describing the shape of stories, "Everything was proceeding as usual, when suddenly, a knock at the door - a new person arrives." (My words, paraphrasing. I memorized his name, but I've forgotten the book title.)
My guess, about why the absense of intense doubt (followed by calming breaths, and reasoning mixed with a prayer, "Really?!? Because this is highly unlikely...") has heralded relationships that I mostly felt relieved when it ended, not so long after they began: my chart is ruled by 9th house Venus, which also rules my 8th house Taurus Sun. Relationships (
) are at best a voyage of discovery (9th), when they matter very much in the assortment of narratives in my life (
opposite ). Mars in Cancer, conjunct my MC, sextiles my 8th house Sun: engaging concretely, and taking calculated leaps of faith are part of what I'm meant to do. (I do not mean foolish risks - not twice, at least.)
Some of that, though, is common to lots of us. So, maybe the chart elements rather reflect that I tend to think deeply about these things, and enjoy () conversations that include talking about the various ways people have discerned (in 3rd) when a relationship had enough elements to make it a happy one for everyone, and not to much of what would make it unbearably unhappy.
(P.S. All relationships end sometime, even lifelong ones. The important ones occasion grief. That's just the way it goes.)
"My guess, about why the absense of intense doubt (followed by calming breaths, and reasoning mixed with a prayer, "Really?!? Because this is highly unlikely...") has heralded relationships that I mostly felt relieved when it ended, not so long after they began" - Poppy
Poppy, you've felt this too when you first meet someone? That dreamscape type of comfortable with circumstances whose flaws you only realize with horror when you look at them in hindsight. But at the time, they were just a vague part of the scenery?