A gal my class was telling me how her husband is jealous of her relationship with her son (who had a different father). It's seemingly unsolvable.
I've seen this before but not that often. Can anyone relate? Better yet, has anyone had a similar problem and solved it?
I have heard of this, but have not seen it up close. It would be interesting to hear from someone who has experienced it first hand.
I guess it would involve helping the man understand that her love for her son does not detract from her love for him. Also the man should feel special because she chose him. The love you have for your son and partner are incomparable. I don’t think there’s any need for competition between the two. I wonder whether he has a child of his own. If he does it might be easier for him to understand and vice versa.
Yes, I was that child. Was emotionally abused for it, my brother, too. Never solved it; it resolved on its own as we got older and decades passed. It was pretty miserable as the child so I feel for them.
Her husband chose to marry a woman with a child. So, he needs to figure it out. & quite frankly, grow up.
Ohhh..this is more complex with her son now deceased. It’s such a shame that she can’t derive comfort/support from her husband. It’s like she would need to get it from another source such as a close friend/s. It would be a sad place to be in 😔.
sorry to hear, i've heard of it, too. I would definitely confront the guy head on first. and tell him that's my son and if he has a problem he can walk. I dont like it if the man doesn't accept and love my son who is a part of me. i know in this case she has a different personality and their dynamics can be very very different. But there would be an arugement and fight between us all the time if this issue keeps popping up.
I'm glad this lady is getting some help from a grief group and also talking to you
When I married my second husband, my cousin said "the boys will be gone within a year." They were 17 and 23. We were super tight. I did not believe her. They still lived at home. Super close to me.
A year later my boys were gone. I could not believe it. I called her and asked "How did you know?"
She said "Testosterone". She is an animal behaviorist.