Hi!
I’ll be traveling to NY in September for a few days with my daughter for a few days and will be meeting a former coworker that I worked with remotely for two years, he left the company a year ago but we still talk pretty much daily. I’m going because I’ve always wanted to visit NY, he happens to live on Long Island. Point is, our friendship has been formed over work calls, chats, after work calls and texts. I’m just curious to know if it’ll be a good first time face to face meeting? We’ re only friends, he’s legally married but separated for 5 yrs and would most likely reconcile with his wife if she had interest so i just want to make that clear. Thanks for looking!
You posted the female chart twice.
@elsa sorry about that, I posted mine twice on accident and couldn’t figure out how to delete one of them. I wasn’t sure if I needed to add his. This is his. Thanks again
Any opinions on the charts? There’s no romantic interest on my part. 1) he’s separated 2) he lives in NY and I’m in Fl just curious to know if the in person meeting will go well or if it won’t translate over into “ real” life. Thanks to any replies.
I'm sorry no one has responded. Speaking for myself, generally there IS romantic interest in a situation like this, by one or the other. But if not, I would expect you both to have an enhanced version of what's usual for you.
I went to NY to see a platonic male friend. He also came to my house and slept in the other bunk bed in my son's bedroom. We had a great time. Exactly like online, but there was a hug.
I would look at it like an adventure. I don't see how it can go wrong.
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I came back about a week ago from this trip and I thought it went pretty well. I enjoyed the city and he was very sweet, he really went out of his way for us by picking us up from the airport, paying for things and coming along with us everyday into the city. I asked him yesterday how he felt about meeting in person and got no response but he did text me something related to a job he’s trying to fill. I’m not sure how to take that? Can I assume the lack of response isn’t necessarily positive? I’m wondering if he was being so nice because he was hoping I’d apply for the open position on his team. I turned it down because the benefits aren’t as good where he works now and I’ve been at my job for over 8 years so starting over isn’t necessarily the smartest idea at this point. If I need to post new charts, please let me know.
thanks to anyone that responds
@kimmyness not sure what you're saying here. Did he ignore the personal text, but send a text on the non-personal, later?
Regardless of that, it's possible he wants to respond to your question on the phone or something. But i don't get the order of operations here, for sure.
@elsa I asked and then a few mins after, he texted me and told me another person he approached about the job turned him down. Maybe he didn’t see the text but I doubt it.
@kimmyness Understanding this, I don't think the jury is in. He may be formulating his response, intending to answer when he has a clear head or whatever. The fact he is texting you at all suggests he is not done communicating. Try and hang in there and see what comes next. I mean, you're in a conversation and people have different ways.
@kimmyness if he's thinking about it, it may actually be better. He didn't shoot off some meaningless platitude.
@elsa that could be true, I’ve been gushing how great the whole thing was to a couple of the same people we know, I’d feel incredibly stupid if it wasn’t mutual 😄 I’ll wait and see