Her Boyfriend Cheated, She Loves Him To Bits – Should She Stay Or Should She Go? Sun, Stellium in Taurus

Hi Elsa,

My boyfriend of 8 years recently cheated on me. He came back, saying it was his first time and that he’d never do it again and that he loves me.

I am so confused about what to do. I absolutely love him to bits. But what he has done has rocked my trust and confidence big time. I’ve become very suspicious and the only thing running inside my head every time is what he might be up to at that moment. The fact that he and that girl work together makes it all the more difficult.

I just can’t seem to forgive him. I’m not saying I’ve been entirely faithful. I cheated him once too and told him about it. But it was during a time when we were on the verge of breaking up. I don’t know if I should stay or I should let go!

Girlfriend
Saudi Arabia

Dear Girlfriend,

Well I think you should stay at least for now! You say you love this man to bits and that’s pretty rare… especially after 8 years, as I am sure you know. So if it were me, I would try very hard to work through this.

I don’t see how you can get out without making an effort, so what might help is committing to making the effort. You’ve got a lot of Taurus and you need stability. I know you are in a lot of pain, but it sounds as if your relationship is pretty strong and probably worth saving.

So if you opt in this direction… essentially making a decision, you may find things ease a little right away and perhaps the next steps to take will emerge.

For example, your man may need to get a new job. Or the two of you may really want to talk through this cheating thing at a deep enough level that a paradigm shift takes place, and your commitment to each other becomes stronger than ever. You get the idea…

But I wouldn’t bolt. Not when you love him to bits! Not when he’s sorry. And not when he is willing to made amends and work on your relationship.

One more thing. Here’s a resource for you and anyone wishing to save their marriage / relationship. Best book I know for couples wanting to keep it together… non-religious, by the way. Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage

Good luck!