The recent changes around here have prompted me to dialogue with various people about things I never thought I’d speak to them about. I’m talking about my husband quite a bit, where he’s usually on the periphery. Specifically, I’ve been called to outline some of his idiosyncrasies, or his unconventional thinking and I realize in this process, how glad and grateful I am that he is the way he is.
This occurred to me because I know the average person does not think in accord with my husband. They may think he is obstinate, old-fashioned or just plain crazy. They may think he makes things harder than they are. They most definitely don’t understand the decisions he makes or his attitudes.
If a person does not ask direct questions in regards to this stuff, I don’t elaborate. If they do question me, I answer the questions as best I can but in most cases, I don’t think it helps.
Having gone through this process several times now, what I realize with clarity is that I like my husband’s weirdness. It’s easier for me to tell people that my husband is odd and that I like it this way, then it is to try to explain his thoughts and feelings, even though I understand them.
It’s true of course. I have Uranus in my 7th house and what would I want with someone who was usual? I wouldn’t be at all attracted to someone usual but as it is, I am never bored and extremely happily married.
And what about my husband? Well he has Venus in aspect to Uranus and he’s married to an astrologer. Can you see he’s in the same situation? Astrologers are kooks! “Why does she believe in astrology? What’s wrong with her?”
In reality, we’re in love and if either of us is crazy, it’s irrelevant to what is primary – we’re in love.
Is your partner a weirdo?