What Is The Number One Thing People Have Wrong About You?

What is the number one mistake people make about you?

For me, it’s that they think I like my ass kissed. People think I like to be flattered when I am in fact sickened by it.

It literally makes me feel ill but I never say anything when someone does it for two reasons:

First I’m polite and second… I’m polite.

What is the number one thing people have wrong about you is? Where is Neptune in your chart?

96 thoughts on “What Is The Number One Thing People Have Wrong About You?”

  1. I’m rather reserved and quiet, especially in a work setting, so only people who get close to me know who I really am — and invariably they’re surprised. People have ascribed all kinds of actions and motives to me that I’d never even think of (for example, at one of the jobs I had someone stole money, and even though that is something I’d never do I’m pretty sure the boss thought I’d done it. They never said anything directly to me, though.) I get “you think you’re so good” a lot, which is others’ projections. Scorpio Sun, Leo rising, Moon in Gemini.

  2. There are two, actually

    1 – that I am some sort of sex fiend with no morals or standards and that I am after them/their partner and/or only interested in getting laid

    2 – that I’m some sort of super liberal government should be our mama type

    Neptune/moon in 7H Sag opposite Sun/Saturn/Ascendant in Gemini.

  3. oooh. ouch, Loonsounds. Same as your sis. Neptune conj. Ascendant in Scorpio. Boyfriend used to say I have a mind like a steel sieve. Still laugh when I say that. I think I’ve sort of lived up to people’s expectations and I undersell myself. Elsa, I wondered about that, because your patience with it looks like rock-star with groupies. You get both, though. Flattery and direct praise and gratitude.

  4. That my life pattern has been irresponsible.

    My Neptune is in Sag trining my Leo Asc. I have moved quite a lot in my 20’s, changed schools a few times, and tried many different jobs. It was always with an eye to spiritual growth and being realistic about my surroundings– sometimes about climbing the ladder. Some people have judged me for it, thinking that change equals instability, and instability = irresponsible.

    That’s all right. I’m doing the Cap Sun thing; it’s not my problem that the haters don’t see it. 🙂

  5. I’m not sure if this is obvious according to my Neptune placement/aspects, but people almost always underestimate me; wether it’s based on a first impression of my general appearance or even if they’ve gotten to know me a litter better. I usually surprise ’em;-) Usually a positive thing except if I’m trying to get a job or something similar and need to come off as capable and hard-working…. which I am, almost to a fault sometimes, but people usually don’t see it right off the bat.
    My 8th hse Neptune(Sag) is opposed my conjunct Gemini Sun & Jupiter in the 2nd.

  6. Neptune in scorpio in the 4th house (conj Venus)

    People often think I’m far more open than I really am. Men in particular often think I am this wild and crazy sexually uninhibited woman that screws around and has casual sex with lots of men – couldn’t be further from the truth!

    1. Yeah Mahchi. I get that too. I’m playful and open about talking about sex or can engage in witty sexual banter. (Neptune in Scorpio in 2nd conjunct with Venus in Scorpio oppose Taurus Moon in 8th)
      But I am a traditionalist, monogamous and rather old fashioned. I’m only sexy adventurous and crazy with one guy. Don’t do harems or friends with bennies either.

  7. Neptune in 12th in Sag. In real life people sometimes think I’m much younger than I am and inexperienced/ innocent. But actually I think this is mostly younger people I’ve worked in assuming that. Maybe people think I fit in, when I never really seem to. I can be in a group of people with all one thing in common and nobody will guess that one thing is not something I share.

    Online I’ve had people call me mysterious.

    1. Yep, same here! I was born with a baby face and people always thought I was 5-10 years younger than I am. Even now, I think people don’t believe I’m 40. Mom used to tell me I would appreciate this someday. Kind of hard to do so when you want to be treated as an intelligent individual who has earned respect, and others treat you like you need your hand held and can only understand small words! (I’m talking about at work–at least here people talk to me like an adult.)

  8. They have me all wrong, my image, my intentions, my words…

    My Neptune is conjunct my IC, inconjunt my 11th house Mercury, ruler of my AC.

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    Lol, that makes me laugh Elsa. I think I may have flattered you! But what can one do when they feel a sense of admiration for you? Your posts have helped me through difficult, confusing and painful times. IMO it is human to express gratitude for such things. But! Apologies for any compliment induced sickness 😉

    As for me, people think I am stronger/more kickass than I am. I have Mars in the 10th, square the ASC and I look like I knock down buildings in my spare time. My hidden Neptune in the 4th fools them all 🙂

    1. I don’t think a compliment is flattery. To me, flattery is when a person layers on praise to feed the other person’s ego. I make a video about this.
      Leo, Flattery and Fool’s Gold.

      Everyone enjoys a compliment or and authentic expression of appreciation of their work or some effort they’ve made. I am talking about heaping praise in order to manipulate.

      1. It makes us all equally appalled when there is a kiss ass kissing your ass but we don’t say anything either. Remember the teachers pet in school who everyone just could not stand. Well Elsa, you are like the teacher, and kiss assers come with that.

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        It’s my Libra rising. Then they meet my Capricorn Moon and Mars aspects, and it gets ugly.

        Cancer Midheaven? You’re the mama with a knife protecting her kid!

  10. Neptune square Sun and opposite moon here. People always think that I am very mysterious in a glamorous and unavailable way, and this intrigued people…the neptunian way.

    They also used to think that I was having sex all day (scorpio rising, uranus rising, moon pluto trine, eighth house moon and mars) when it was not like that at all.

    Things have quieten more since my late thirties and early forties but that was a recurrent thing I heard for almost two decades. Ah!

  11. Because I look sweet (and, let’s be honest, am sweet) people think they manipulate me, can boss me around and make decisions over my head. And then they meet Mars in Gemini on the Ascendant and all of a sudden it’s my fault. I’m saying mean things. But weren’t they the one who attempted to manipulate me, boss me around and make decisions for me? That’s ri-ight.
    My Mars is conjunct Sun and Mercury in the 12th and causes me many enemies, no doubt, who sabotage in me ways I probably don’t even know. Once I get started people tend to never forget. I am like ‘BOOM The Empire Strikes Back!’ Sun 12 rules Leo 3rd.

  12. I have no idea what people think of me, so I don’t know where they would be wrong!
    My Neptune is in 12th, and is ruler of empty 5th House.

  13. I have neptune in 12 too, sextile sun. I just think people see what they need to see in me. I think this is actually widely true for most people. I really think our perception of “others” is only a reflection of our own inner world.

  14. Not entirely sure, maybe don’t really care. My step-father & mother called me “ice queen”, even in high school. I like people, it’s just takes such a commitment to do relationship right.

    Neptune in the fifth Libra (as is Saturn),
    square Moon, Uranus, Eris

  15. Probably it’s that they think I have my shit together. To be honest, I kind of foster that; like my dad always said, Always act like you know what you’re doing.

    My friends also tend to mistakenly believe that I like all the same things they like, and are shocked when I tell them I don’t want to go to a sushi restaurant. But I don’t know if that says more about me or them.

  16. With Pisces Asc, Gemini Sun and Sag Moon people think I’m quiet and laid back, just taking in my surroundings. When anger rises or I stand up for someone else people are shocked! I also notice details in my view that other people seem to miss when something bad happens and I’m compelled to report to someone! A blessing and a curse.

  17. I am often perplexed when I hear people say to me, “I know you” or “I know what you’re like” when they are talking about something that is clearly not me, about me or even liked by me!
    What I have learnt from that is their perceptions are way off base and it is more about them. Now, I actually stand up and say so. Quite often they do not like their projection put back where it really belongs. Leaves me with a ‘meh’ feeling.

  18. That I am an airy-fairy romantic (I have Pisces rising). Nope. I have a stellium in Capricorn and Aquarius. I’m grounded and mental. 😀

  19. i have neptune in the 10th house. People rarely see me for who I am and their assumptions run the gamut. I think most of all some are surprised when I say something off color or make a wise crack about something. But for the most part people have a much more positive opinion about me than is the reality of who I really am. I am only human and I have more than my fair share of faults.

    1. Can relate. Especially as I am in a Management position per my Job. Have Neptune in Scorpio in the 10th House, 1st degree squaring Uranus in Leo/8th House with Pluto in Leo also 8th House. Assumptions run the gamut. Folks at work call me ‘The King’ and/or ‘The Sphinx’. Cute, eh? Have an Aries Sun, Sagg Rising and weirdly, a Pisces Moon. Have all slow moving planets from Jup thru Pluto (five planets in retrograde!) in the top of my chart!

  20. Neptune conjunct moon in 4th scorpio square my sun/asc in Leo. Ppl think im high maintenance, princess and dont get my hands dirty. But I garden, cut grass, spread mulch and do all of the house chores/bills etc. idk maybe because i dont have a job outside of the home? My husband works construction 12hr days…I always had to do everything else..

  21. 12th. Conj Asc. In Sage.
    A lot of people seem to feel I’m fake when I’m earnest. I’ve also been told I was lying about my origins. Had people who knew me years say several years after the fact: “Wow. You were really who you said all along!” It’s weird.

  22. I have had a lot of experiences recently and I will be 44 this week… I didn’t get this until the last few years- I will be with someone in my life either through work or a neighbor or a friend of a friend.. and out of the blue I hear”You are really not that abnormal. I totally am sorry for thinking you might have a criminal record or hate authority and want to overthrow everything… I totally thought you were one of those girls who is into the whole witchcraft Polyamorous thing and I didn’t know you had a house and you had been married and you do accounting! I was totally wrong about you and I feel so bad.”

    No one realizes how much they are doing to make me an actual asshole. ?

  23. That I’m easy to influence/manipulate/do what others tell me. But also when people don’t know the tiniest thing about me, I rub them the wrong way. I especially heard the phrase- you’re not how you seem at all- or I was wrong about you- let’s hang out. Neptune/Uranus/Moon in 1st house with mars squaring it all and saturn in 1st.

  24. Neptune in Scorpio, 7th hse.

    Ppl assume I love people – them, more specifically – and that I want and need to spend time and be around them all the time, be part of their lives and get involved with their dramas. They see my life as a social void they seem to need to fill for me… And then they are hurt and go away when I’m not all over their ideas like a rash. Seems its feast or famine.

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