Elsa,
I haven’t been in a relationship for several years. I’m a Sagittarius and can’t seem to find anyone who seems interesting enough for the effort it takes to go out. I returned to college several years ago and have a year left until completion (and have several children). My question is:
I have intense chemistry with one of my former professors. He is also a Sadge and eight years my junior. What is your opinion about that: younger, Sadge, same sign and a former professor?
Thanks,
Ex Student
Dear Student,
I don’t see any problem. You’re nearly 45… he’s mid thirties, so you’re both adults. As for the age difference, so what? There are as many benefits as there are problems. He’s your ex-professor? Big deal. He taught you some things, now you can return the favor!
As for the general question of two people in relationship being the same sun sign, in my experience it either works very well or the people bore and repel each other. You know. Yick! He/she is way too much like me! Makes me sick to look in a mirror like that! Get me the hell out of here!
More specific for Sagittarius, on the upside you can understand each other’s need for freedom. But I’ll tell you something I notice about Sadge. Some of them seem to be looking for someone to (try to) tie them down. You know. They want someone who will try to stick a wild horse in a corral and why is that? So they can jump the fence of course. So if you (or he) is of this ilk… well you’re going to let each other down by not trying to contain and restrict.
Bottom line, if I were you I’d call this guy up and get a date. You have every reason in the world to do this and absolutely no reason not to. And from there, provided he signs on, you’re two people on an adventure.
Sound good? Sounds good to me.
Good luck.
Yeah, my last boyfriend was 8 years younger. His age was not the reason it didn’t work out, though. Just go for it! It’s hard enough to find someone you click with AND whom you find attractive.
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I’ve been in two long term relationships with Sadge’s and am a Sadge myself, I think you’re right on the money with either being bored and resentful or trying to get tied down and then resenting that too! I’ve wondered why I was like that before and now I can see it better. It’s a messed up game to play with someone and I’ll be better aware of it in the future.
Actually, I’ve had 3 long term relationships with Sadges, wth is wrong with me? One who only wanted me when I was attached. Ha!
does anyone else see a conflict of interest because of the whole ex-professor thing? you have a year of studies left – is it going to be at the same institution and/or department, and is he still teaching there?
there’s a potentially huge student/teacher relations minefield you could be stepping into, here…
I was thinking the same thing, silverfoot. Maybe it’ll be an issue, maybe not… He’s really the only one who would know for sure.
Other than that, I’m currently in a relationship with someone of the same sun sign who’s 10 years older than me. It’s working very nicely! 😀
Thank-you for the advice Elsa and everyone. The professor I speak of is a part-time instructor who would be on the opposite side of the campus, when he teaches class. I believe my concern was more the age difference. You see many more couples with men being older than with women. Also I’ve never dated anyone that is a sadge like myself. I have a Virgo rising, which makes for a more calm sadge. He seems a bit on the wilder side. Maybe thats an attraction to me in itself.
I’m definitely going to ask him for lunch, which I believe would be very non-stressful and then go from there. Hopefully all will go well. I’ll keep you posted….
bah… most times, age is a number in our heads, at least once you’re out of the highly developmental teens’n’twenties. “we’re as old as we feel” is a cliche, but it’s kind of true…
two people, very close to me are in a relationship. she is 9 days older than his mother, he is younger than her youngest son – there are 15 if not 20 years that separate them, but they’re coming up on a 15 year wedding anniversary. after all their friends told them it could never last… *smiles*
Thank-you Silverfoot for the words of inspiration.