I fell in love with someone at first sight. We had like 4 dates! But I thought he was the answer to all my problems. I was convinced we were meant to be.
The pandemic hit about a year after that and I suddenly had a lot of time to think about it. I went on a lot of long walks, listening to music. Eventually I realized that what I wanted from him (world travel, international lifestyle, creativity as a profession) were simply things that I wanted for myself.
It took a few years but I really think I got most of these things. And now I'm in love with someone who gives me real love, not just an illusion.
I'll always think fondly of him as a catalyst for the next stage of my life. I didn't realize how unhappy or stuck I was, before I met him. His Uranus was square my Venus at 0 degrees (as Elsa might say, he was a liberator) ... funny, I feel like he affected a lot more than that. His Jupiter was also conjunct my South Node at 0 degrees (so was mine -- for his South Node). Perhaps we knew each other in another life 🙂