Oh, the Cancer moods...yes. My father and brother, Cancers. My brother is a Cap rising so it feels more pronounced. My mom would get on his case about his moods because I guess she just wanted him to put on a more pleasant face, at least fake it and not snap at her. Funny, she is a Cancer rising. And now my husband, the Cancer. I feel the difference between the Cancer and Scorp retreats, though. It feels like Cancers lash out more and it hurts. But it could be just my perception from family members. But you guys are awesome when we need mothering and caring!

As far as the hositlity and blaming others for making them angry: I wonder what people are thinking when they do that blame thing. Must be extreme projecting. Sometimes I want to get in their heads to see what's going on. That's a whole other thread, though.

allie120 said
Anyway, enough about me. It would be sad for a woman who divorces in her 50's if she has to start over: financially, materially, emotionally, support-wise. 

On the other hand, it might be just what she needs in her life. Not to take it lightly. I don't mean that. But maybe to correct what she or they had done wrong for so long. She might come to a point in her life where being without a spouse may be more satisfying and her life path. 

Never a decision to take lightly, though. 

That will be me hopefully this year (just turned 51 on the 19th - starting the birth year with the Pisces stellium). I need a fresh start and currently have no real financial help and don't drive. Even though I am still married we are no longer emotionally attached (at least I'm not). I have felt worthless for as long as I can remember (since early childhood) and it is time to get out of that mentality and turn my life around somehow. I can't do it married to my husband. If I had felt worthwhile and had financial means I probably would have left a long time ago. I'm also at the point where I am not interested in marrying again, but you never know what the future will bring.

I didn't stay for the kids (I probably should have left *for* the kids sakes) - I was more just stuck. Don't know if it was the returns (Chiron in the 8th (7th Equal) (Think there's another return around age 50)), Saturn in Scorpio in my 4th house or something else (could even be the opposite point of my Yod getting hit), but I've decided I've just had enough and have to get unstuck. [Including chart in case that helps suggest a cause for divorce after 50.]

I have no clue even what direction to go career wise, but know I have to get out of my current situation.

Anyone with helpful suggestions to a fresh start (especially career direction) please let me know.

Happy Birthday!  Life begins at 51!

Could you start driving, or move to where there is good public transport?

Have you looked into funding for training in any field?  There are programs and counseling for women re-entering the workforce.  Perhaps to improve skills you've used years ago, or to learn new skills in an area you enjoy or have talent in?  Is there a university or community college in your area? 

Capricorn on cusp of 6th house, Taurus Moon, Taurus on Midheaven -- money.  Banking?  Even entry level teller, financial planning, accounting/bookkeeping, sales, insurance, or real estate?  What do you love doing in your free time?

Look for women's career networking groups in your area, perhaps MeetUps for women re-entering the work arena, also consider a home business -- bookkeeping, pet-sitting, event planning, catering, virtual assistant, something that excites you!

Wishing you a fabulous fresh start! 

MagicZara said
Thank you, elisa. Yes, when it came down to it, my uncle could never quite get over "she made me do it". Even if as he aged he was no longer physically violent, he could not take responsibility for his angry moods.

eta: I'm glad you're out of that situation. And I also agree that things probably went much more smoothly for her bc her kids were out of the house. Had she tried to leave him when the children were young, there's no telling who would have used the children against whom.

i also heard that there are "anger management programs" for these types of people. I don't know how true that is though. But going around Always having a chip on your shoulder and taking it out on the people you love is very scary. I mean we do get bad days but that's ridiculous.

allie120 said
Oh, the Cancer moods...yes. My father and brother, Cancers. My brother is a Cap rising so it feels more pronounced. My mom would get on his case about his moods because I guess she just wanted him to put on a more pleasant face, at least fake it and not snap at her. Funny, she is a Cancer rising. And now my husband, the Cancer. I feel the difference between the Cancer and Scorp retreats, though. It feels like Cancers lash out more and it hurts. But it could be just my perception from family members. But you guys are awesome when we need mothering and caring!

As far as the hositlity and blaming others for making them angry: I wonder what people are thinking when they do that blame thing. Must be extreme projecting. Sometimes I want to get in their heads to see what's going on. That's a whole other thread, though.

hm my aunt is a cancer sun and i never got snapping from her. I have a girl friend who is also a cancer sun, and she hardly snaps, (ok, she has a few times, but i get her. lol Because, i do the same thing!)  and our synastry is really good though. I guess it just depends on the person.

@ThePhoenix, happy birthday!! I agree with warpedWutheringHieghts, wishing you too a happy new start. It's never too late to be happy again.

@Elisa, it totally depends on the person, very true. My brother was just a kid. I just remember her sitting him down and demanding he be pleasant in the morning! Kinda funny, actually. Yelling at someone for not being pleasant. My gram was a Cancer, too. Sweetest woman.

There are those Anger Management classes, sometimes mandated. I think it would have to take someone who would admit they need help to take the class otherwise. I think even if you videod thise people acting that way, then made them watch it, they still wouldn't see what other people see. 

@Phoenix...happy birthday! 

I understand what you're going through. You're not worthless, but I understand that thinking being so rooted and difficult to overcome if you've felt that way since childhood. Please keep coming back to the blog if you can. I've learned so much here, and with such a diverse group of people, it's amazing what's out there. A start might be to retrain your thinking about yourself. There are probably 10 billion ways people and programs, websites and books can tell you how but one of those ways is going "click" for you, in a way that resonates.

I don't know but I'm drawn to your Uranus-Sun opposition. You're a super individual. Really unique. You might not think so now. But you are. Embrace it.